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Getting stood up AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Posted on 05/09/08, 11:02 pm

My name is Manny, and I got stood up again!!! I am very angry and my cynical views seem more justified than ever. I have never been able to trust people and never will. I am better off with my cat!

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Reply #1 05/10/08 5:04pm

Cynthia35

gosh. i can't belive that. i looked so forward to going on a date that i practically made myself sick. i am so sorry. that is so mean. where do you meet these people?
Reply #2 05/11/08 2:09pm

BELIEVER70

Sorry - this happens - some people are just into games.

My date for yesterday was double booked - think he wound up spending the evening alone when she and I figured it out.
Reply #3 05/12/08 11:38pm

mrmanny

Thank you both for your kind words. Though this did hurt & irritate me, that night I went out with my friends and have a super time. My friends helped me to put this minor setback into its proper perspective. I can choose to let this linger, or I can use this as a stepping stone. I choose to learn and thrive. Dating can be rough, but the only time we have zero chance is when we quit on ourselves. I am not going to do that!
Reply #4 05/13/08 12:55pm

FOOMTN

How many times now Manny?

I have been stood up at least 7 times since I started dating again!

That is why I stopped now!!
Reply #5 05/13/08 7:50pm

Mopri

Do either of you know why you are being stood up?
Are you comming on to strong with the ladys or not strong enough?
Are you talking about your ex's?

I can see being stood up, maybe twice, but if it is a lot of times there has to be something missing that is scaring these women off.

Now in no way am I saying do not be true to yourself, be yourself and be proud of it. But if there is some confliction maybe you are seeking out people not suited to yourself
Reply #6 05/14/08 12:15am

mrmanny

You have valid points. Perhaps I do need to step back & take a look at what it is that I say and/or do that may lead to this situation. Now this situation boggles my mind somewhat because these two women are 23 and 41 respectively. Not to paint with broad strokes, but I associate the game playing with the younger women. Hmmm....life is full of adjustments, and maybe it is time for me to make some changes. Thanks for your comments & making me think about this.
Reply #7 05/14/08 12:19am

mrmanny

FOOMTN, I have been stood up twice in the last three months. I am sorry about your experiences. Please give yourself that chance of meeting that special woman. Honestly, I too have been frustrated almost to the point of quitting dating (again); but if I do that, then I have absolutely ZERO chance. While I am not exactly looking for a woman to marry by this weekend, I would like to have a good, close friend with whom I can share in fun times. Sometimes being alone sucks; sometimes it helps me "recharge" by enthusiasm. Please hang in there! There is strength in numbers, so best of luck to you! Thank you for sharing & allowing me to open up and think about this!
Reply #8 05/14/08 12:33am

Mopri

I wouldnt say give up. But look at what is going on and see if you can tell why they are no showing, could be something you are doing, could be complete incomparability, could be you just found a whole shit load of inconsiderate woman with some bad luck.

Hang in there, there are plenty of good women out there and you will find them, just keep your head up and dont let some bad ones ruin it for yourself or the good women out there
Reply #9 05/14/08 12:56am

mrmanny

Mopri, you are wise. I try very hard not to generalize. Yes, there are good women out there, and when we meet...look out! lol I always feel that life is what we make it! At least we can control how we react.
Reply #10 05/15/08 10:31pm

lilsam

Thank you for being willing to share your frustrations. This is something we're all going to go through at one point or other. It's going to be a learning process - about ourselves just as much as about the other people we meet. Don't be too hard on yourself. I haven't started dating yet and I'm not looking forward to facing these types of situations.