Discussion Topic

Kissing on the first date

Posted on 04/29/08, 07:47 pm

I was just curious what others thought. I was talking with some female friends recently and they both complained about a guy going in for a kiss on the first date. My impression was that if a guy doesn't do at least a short kiss, then women don't think he's attracted to them. Of course, I don't always follow this rule myself, but I was just curious from a woman's perspective if that's your impression or whether it's a sign of a guy who is taking things slow and being respectful...

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Reply #1 04/29/08 8:00pm

aguyandadog

I have to agree with the other gals, no need for a kiss on the first date. If there were to be one, I would prefer it be kept to a kiss on the cheek. My .02...
Reply #2 04/29/08 9:54pm

BELIEVER70

Went out with someone last summer whom I liked quite a bit. Third date, still no kiss. Yes - I wondered if he was really interested (he was)- just turned out he was a gentleman. If a guy takes it slow - it makes me think he IS interested in me, respects me, and is in it for more than just ....well you know.
Reply #3 04/29/08 11:46pm

Lindz1125

I have been dating a guy for almost 2 months. We would go out maybe once a weekend. I just got my first kiss from him this past Friday. I think the reason he waited is because he sensed I wanted to take things slow. You're always cautious after a divorce. For me this scares me to death because I don't want to fall for someone who's going to ultimately hurt me like my ex-husband did. I think he took it slow because he really did like me and didn't want to put any pressure on me. I like him a lot more that he took things slow. Just my opinion.
Reply #4 04/30/08 2:54am

Mopri

I cant speak from much experiance ( 1 date so far) but I had no intention of even making the attempt. I did not want to put her in an uneasy spot. If there is a second date, which there is, then I know she is semi interested and the possibility is there.

I did get the hint on that date thought that she was expecting one, maybe because of past experiance or maybe because she wanted one I do not know, but I just got that feeling when we where talking in the car and the looks. But I stuck to my guns and we are going out again this saturday, so I guess I was not in the wrong with her.
Reply #5 05/02/08 12:47am

mrmanny

Almost every date I have had (90% of the time), I have kissed the woman on the first date--on the lips, no less. If I sense that the feeling is there, I go for it! If not I back off and give a very big hug. It just depends on the woman. I do know this: I would much rather hold back on a kiss when I should kiss than to kiss when I should not. I always am on the "gentleman" side of dating. If she wans a kiss, I most definitely will give her one! ;-)
Reply #6 05/04/08 1:16am

lilsam

I would say no to kissing on the first date. I haven't dated in over 12 years though so I'm definitely no expert. I would be flattered by a kiss on the cheek after a second date.
Reply #7 05/04/08 10:37am

Mike40

I don't think kissing on the first date is the way to go especially if it was just for dinner or something. If it was a longer full day date I think a nice hug and maybe a kiss on the forehead is appropriate. Depends how it went. You want to show you are still interested if you are but don't want to be too agressive...goes for the gals too! I like aggressive gals but the last date I had she tried to have sex 2 hours into the date...seemed desparate and really turned me off.
Reply #8 05/04/08 12:58pm

sc2kids4me

You know, I think it depends on the date, the guy/girl, the connection and how you both feel. I think you can tell if there is a connection and it's kind of up to the guy to decide whether or not to go for the kiss. Glad the pressure is not on me!
Reply #9 05/15/08 9:47am

AngPang

I agree that if there is a connection that is felt I see no problem with a kiss on the first date. It just all depends on how the date went. I have had it both ways, but I think that after a few dates and I hadn't gotten a kiss I would begin to wonder if maybe he wasn't really into me.
Reply #10 05/24/08 12:46pm

foxysdad

I don't kiss on the first date. Maybe not the 2nd, 3rd, or 4th date. To me, I'm an old guy, a kiss is a committment of special feelings. It was a problem for me when I dated a young woman 20 years my junior. When I called her up for a second date, she said she didn't think she'd hear from me again because I hadn't kissed her. I told her I didn't kiss on the first date, but when I finally did, she would know I had very special feelings for her. She found out on the 4th date. Buuuut, the generation gap was too wide and it didn't work out. That was almost 20 years ago. Maybe now the ages and styles wouldn't matter that much.