Discussion Topic
Jealous I can't have another due to health!
Posted on 05/08/08, 08:13 pm
The emotional turmoil on the subject continues. I had a dream last night someone bragged about their 2 kids. I burst into tears just hearing about it in my dream. I'm extremely jealous of those women who are able to have another child. With the amount of medications that I'm on and medical conditions, - some of my meds are toxic to the fetus and I cannot quit taking it because doing so would cause pain and suffering and disability that I cannot afford. I also know most likely I WILL have another preeclamsia because of my preexisting blood pressure and the idea of either Magnesium Sulphate drip nor catheter shoved up my urethra does not inspire me any. And most certainly I WOULD require another cesarean because pushing the baby out will cause strokes. Still, I crave to increase my family and torture my husband whether he has a gut feeling on more kids in the future. At the moment I do not know how to deal with the pain and jealousy of seeing other women with 2-3 kids.
-
Reply #1 05/08/08 10:11pm
I think that women with these conditions are always jealous of other women that have more children . -
Reply #2 05/09/08 3:48pm
I can only imagine how hard it is for you, knowing you want another. But keep in mind that those who have pcos and have had other children are not here to make you jealous. We still have to deal with pcos, even though some of us are done having kids, it hurts my feelings that so many women are angry at me and women like me for having more than one child. I feel bad for those who don't have any or want more, but its not fair for me to take on the guilt of that. It is how it is. Sorry this might have come out a little harsh but the amount of women with pcos and no kids greatly outnumbers those who have kids or aren't ttc and I feel very much the minority and singled out a lot, not just on this pcos board but most others. I have to say that if it risked my life and my babies to have another I would consider adoption or another option. Ok sorry stepping off my soap box. -
Reply #3 05/09/08 9:29pm
That is a hard thing to deal with. I went though similar feelings yrs ago. I finally decided I had torched myself enough over it. We cant change our medical problems and have to learn to cope with it. I have devoted myself to my only daughter. She means the world to me. i have alot of health issues also that hendered me from having anymore children, I dont envy anyone for the size of their family. I just enjoy what god has given me. We always thought about adoption but yrs went by and time has a way of healing. God bless you and hope you can come to terms with yourself over this. WENDY -
Reply #4 05/10/08 2:12pm
I too want another child. I feel for you. I am not in a healthy state right now to have another child. My heart goes out to you. I am so very sorry. It always upsets me to see loving women who so badley want to have a child to love not be able to have one. And so many women have yet don't want. I am in the process of considering adoption. It has helped to feel the void. Thinking I may be able to love more children.
Welcome
