acheformom

This is kind of long, I hope it helps in some way.

Posted on 10/08/08, 08:57 pm

Hello Group,
My name is Evelyn, I wanted to share my own story. I hope in some small way to help relieve â??even just a littleâ?? of the enormous pain I have seen, in my own live and have read in yours.

I wrote this post about a week ago in the â??Bereavementâ?? and in the â??Other Side, Near Death Experiencesâ?? discussions when I was replying to one of the members. I got to looking around the web site and discovered this group. I know what happen to me was not a serious of coincidences. I actually have experienced some things after Mom passed. I think it so important to let people know that this isn't the end when we leave this earth. I suffered more than I thought I would be capable before my Mother's passing. Looking back, I know that I would not have been given those beautiful miracles if God and Jesus would not have shown me absolute mercy in the despair I was in.

(THE POST I REPLIED IN THE BEREAVEMENT DISCUSSIONS UNDER THE HEADING- "LIFE AFTER DEATH")

I don't know much about reincarnation, but I know this, your wife is very much with you in the spirit form.

I an a very realistic person. The 10 days my precious Mother lay dying in the hospital before she passed I agonized more than words can describe. I wanted with all my heart to know that she would have a place to go, that I would see her again. What if she just died and that was it!?? I had never seen anything that could absolutely proof she would be OK.
I had never known the suffering that I was experiencing because of this uncertainty.
The thought that I would never see her again no matter what was unbearable, so I set out on a personal mission. If there is a hope for an afterlife and I can get God's attention Iâ??m going to get it. I PRAYED, and PRAYED for a sign. I walked into churches that I had never been to in my life. I put a Cross around my dying mother's neck and a little glass angel in her limp hands. I ask people who I didn't even know that well to pray. I wrote on prayer cards and even took a little holy water up to Mom's room to put on her. If there was a heaven, afterlife, or a God, I was going to see to it my Mom got in.
As her death drew nearer, for some weird reason, peace and assurance started take the place of my agony.

I was the only one with her when she passed, I am telling you now, as sure as I'm sitting here, that I was given the proof of more that one miracle that day. I know mom and I were not the only ones in the room when she passed. I don't quite know who or how many were there, but make no mistake, they let me know in no uncertain terms that they were taking her with them and she will be just fine in their capable hands.
The disc player that I was player for my mother and singing to her with (Christmas songs- Christy Lane ones) (Mom loved that particular one) Slammed off right in the middle of the song for absolutely no reason. Right before that happened, my mom ( who had not open her eyes in days) kept opening them like she had just taken a little nap! There was no strain on her face and she opened them all the way. I thought for a minute, my Lord, is she getting well? she looked so healthy and relaxed. Not only was her eyes opening but she also keep twitching her nose, like someone was tickeling it with a feather. When that Boom Box slammed off I was so startled, she opened her eyes again, I knew she was looking at them, I felt a presence so strong, it left no dought. I told her to go ahead and take their hand it's OK. Here eyes closed, I knew that she just left the room. Their were no monitors to tell me this. The watch I was wearing sits in a case in my living room. That watch stopped ( Brand new watch) a the exact time of death, 12:28pm, it has never worked since.

Lets just say that this critic and realist (ME) had the proof almost shoved down her throat. I will never dought God and Jesus again. It is my honor and duty to tell people of what happened that day.

P.S. There is even other things that had occurred with Moms passing, but these are the most significant events that people who don't know me and the circumstances surrounding me at this time can relate most with.

I the last of 5 children my Mom had and the only girl. My Mom chose to leave on my first childâ??s Birthday and her first great grandsons Birthday Nov 8, 2007 . 11 months ago today.

On the little pamphlet that is given to the people that attended the funeral I wrote this poem. ( Her funeral was on Nov 16, 2007) I had some time to think â??8 daysâ?? about my tribute to the power and the miracle of a Motherâ??s Love.


Miracle

Mothers instinctively know what her
Childs cry needs
I looked into your eyes, your soul today
Those deep pools of blue
And was instantly and profoundly
changed forever
I asked you to take his hand
Iâ??ve known you since the beginning of time
You delivered my soul into this world
I marveled at the miracle taking place
To witness your soul be placed into the
Heavenly Fatherâ??s arms
What an honor and privilege
This gift is to me
Thank you Mother
Thank You God
Evelyn



God Bless all of us,

Evelyn

• Reply #1 10/08/08  10:40pm
  
  acheformom
  
  Hi,
  
  I was just looking at my own post, I copied and pasted the body of it from when I wrote this before. I see that there is some weird ????? in alot of it where I corrected my spelling. Please excuse this, I didn't realize that it would come out looking so funky.
  
  Evelyn
• Reply #2 10/08/08  11:13pm
  
  Starlitsky86
  thats a very nice story... ive lost faith...i often wonder if my mother is around somehow, i hate it. all i know is i was given signs before she passed away... As weird as this sounds. I was on the computer as my mother walked in, I got a popup on my screen of a ghost desktop wallpaper..no lie. 2 days before she passed, i felt the urge to skip a college class to go to dinner with her instead, the last dinner i shared with her. and at that dinner, the thought popped into my mind, what would i do without her? And at school, I had JUST started a project and for some reason I picked the theme of Life and death - my belief is that for every death there is life. Behold..2 days after that popup, after that dinner, after that project..she was gone
• Reply #3 10/08/08  11:38pm
  
  rachele70nj
  That is beautiful and thank you for having the courage to share your experience. I have felt alot like you, struggling to know is their is such an afterlife. Since my mom died 14 months ago, I struggled even more. To my suprise, I think my mom has sent me signs through objects music, and mediums I have visited. I just can't imagine that all of this is coincidence. Even if half were coincidences, what about the others which cannot be explained, if not for her spirit existing. Also, most recently I posted "A Death Wish" if you haven't already read it. That night in my deepest despair, a religious experience took place. I prayed for comfort and I turned on the religious channel to the movie, Jesus Of Nazareth which my mom loved. They were showing the part of the movie where Lasarus is raised from the dead by Jesus. At that very moment, I knew I had to get my Bible and read about that miracle. Well, the Bible is a big book as most of you know. I turned directly to page in JOHN's writings on Lasarus being raised from the dead. Shortly after, I began to feel tremendous peace inside me. Is this a coincidence too? I don't think so.
• Reply #4 10/09/08  2:17am
  
  Lillie1
  The day we got a phonecall to say my moms body was shutting down and that we should turn back to the hospital, I felt as though my lungs were collapsing, I couldn't breathe. It felt as though I was dying with her but the strangest thing was my 6 month old son who was sound asleep in the car at the very same moment, woke up with a very sudden, high scream, just one scream that was over in a second, which he has NEVER done before or since my moms passing. I believe me mom came to us and touched us as she was leaving this earth.
• Reply #5 10/09/08  4:05am
  
  acheformom
  
  Hi Guys, OOPS, I mean Gals,
  
  Thanks for reading and replying to my post. If I could have, I would have chalked up so much of what happened as coincidence, but I would be a fool if I did. I still go over and over with myself what happened to me( maybe my mind made it all up so I could cope) because it seemed to good to be true, and how in the world could something like this happen to a person so unworthy as myself. All I have to do is look across the room, in the glass case and see the watch which is stopped at the exact time that my Mom passed. Or ask my boyfriend (who I called within five minutes after Mom passed) and tell him to repeat what I told him at the time. By the way, he tells me that I was almost euphoric acting when I spoke, and didn't even know about the watch yet. or I look at the journal I was keeping and writing in at the time, to see that it really did happen. If you believe that your own experience was a sign, make no mistake, IT WAS.
  Its kinda funny, when I talk or write about this, I just can't give it the justice it deserves. Because no one can truly know just how significant these signs are to that person that they happened to, unless they practically lived in your body or knew you inside and out. Its hard to put into words, so I will just say,
  You, and you alone know in your heart of hearts that you recieved a sign from the other side. Don't let anyone ever tell you different or down play your miracle.
  
  Thats one of the reasons why I wrote the post the other day about what an AWESOME group of selfless women you all are. Your suffering won't go un noticed, just keep an open mind and heart that miracles still happen and you don't have to be a saint to get them. I'm living proof.
  
  Love,
  
  Evelyn
• Reply #6 10/09/08  6:28am
  
  KARENGOGLUCCI
  At the exact moment my mom passed away, we were awaken at midnight by a phone call. The hospital claimed it wasnt them, she has just passed away and they would be calling us soon. The cell phone did not register who it was from and to this day we do not know. It was definately very, very out of the ordinary.
• Reply #7 10/09/08  9:17am
  
  nancy7161
  As a Christian and very spiritual person, I have no doubt of God or heaven. It doesn't make my pain any less but I know without a doubt that my parents are with God, no longer suffering, having total and complete peace. I sense my Mom around me often. I am grateful for my faith; don't know what I would do without it. Not trying to shove my beliefs down anyone's throat, just wanted to share . "Faith is beleiving when common sense tells you not to.".............
• Reply #8 10/09/08  5:37pm
  
  LaRubia
  A few days before my mom died, I started having vivid dreams of my grandmother - my mom and my grandma were especially close, and my grandma died when I was 10 - we were also very close. My brother and I were her favorite grandkids (she had 16 total), and I've had dreams of her in the past, but not for a long time, so suddenly dreaming of my grandma for the first time in years was very strange for me. Well, the day my mom died, my brother and I BOTH woke up out of deep sleep, at the SAME TIME (at 4am) to use the loo. (My brother and I live in different parts of the same city.) For some reason, we both knew that there was a message on both of our answering machines, and when we checked, sure enough the red message light was blinking on both of our machines - and for whatever reason, we both chose to just go back to bed for another couple of hours before getting up and listening to the message. Turns out that the assisted living facility where my mom & dad were at had left us both messages to tell us to call as soon as we could. That's how we found out our mom died. I now know my grandma was sending me a message in my dreams that she would be there for my mom when she passed. I truly believe my mom's soul is joined again with my grandma, and that they're both at peace. I'm not a religious person, but I am very spiritual, and in my heart I know this to be true.
  - Dawn
• Reply #9 10/09/08  6:01pm
  
  KARENGOGLUCCI
  Very amazing Dawn!!
• Reply #10 10/09/08  10:49pm
  
  acheformom
  I agree!
  A couple of weeks ago I was listening to the radio talk show "Coast to Coast". That night they had a guest on from England, I'm sorry, I forgot his name. He is a Neurologist, through his life in working with the dyeing, he could see a definite pattern of unexplained phenomenons happening before people passed" even a couple of weeks before" and at the time of passing. He became so interested and fasinated by this that he started studying and recording data full time. He said the turning point for him was when a mother who had just given birth and was not going to make it " I don't know the exact reason" however the baby was OK. Anyway, she kept saying how lovely her father looked, and how beautiful it all was. She started telling her father ( who had passed before all this) that she wanted her husband to be able to come with her when he leads her away. (Here's the kicker), she got very excited all of a sudden and said something to the effect of this " Oh my, Oh my, you brought (sister in-law) (I can't remember the name) with you. And she was so happy to see her with her father and how beautiful she looked. Apparently, because of the delicate and high risk condition of this dyeing lady's pregnancy, no one had told her that her sister in law had passed unexpectedly a few weeks before.
  It was at that point that this Dr. knew that these visions of dyeing people were not the brain shutting down and lacked oxygen causing hallucinations. He has documented many times similar phenomenons that can not be explained scientically or chemically from what we know logically in this world. So many cases are very similar in what people see and experience. Many times, he gets his information from the caregivers that are with the dying that don't have the emotional ties, that some would write off because of being "destraut or wishful" due to the circumstances.
  Another thing is also common , many times, even up to a few weeks before the passing, the dyeing and/or the loved ones will be visited by family that has already passed on. Dreams, visions, and a destinct feeling of their presence will many times be shown, not only to the person that they are comming for, but the loved ones that will be left behind to ease their suffering.
  
  There was tons more, but I know this info would interest you Dawn.
  
  Bye for now,
  
  Evelyn
  
  
  
  

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