MamasChild

Found Something Today

Posted on 10/06/08, 11:56 pm

It's beginning to get chilly on the East Coast, and we're preparing clothes, blankets, etc., as always. Today, in wanting to launder some blankets, I found something of Moms. A knee-warmer. Actually, it was a small blanket I'd crocheted for her many years ago - maybe 20 x 20 inches - not too big - just enough to cover her knees. I wasn't the best at crocheting but I'd made the stitches extra tight so it wouldn't get caught while she drove. Mama kept using it even in my car when she stopped driving. And she kept it on the couch for evenings. But it hadn't been in use for a long time. I'd forgotten about it.

Today, it surfaced. Mama's knee warmer. No words. My heart has no words. Such a connection and such a heartbreak. I planned to clean and use it myself, if just out of sentiment - it messed up a little in laundering - that bothered me big time. I don't know if I'll use it or if it will hurt too much to look at it. The remembrance of this item - almost more personal than her clothes. Tugging at my beart. Mama's knee warmer.

• Reply #1 10/07/08  12:41am
  
  rachele70nj
  It's those certain things that get to you in the most personal way. The knew warmer, a blanket things that made up the esscence of them. It is hard to decide, to use keep it out and how you feel when you see it. Sometimes I just cry when I see my mom's picture memorial or other items she had. It's that only connection as you say to the person, our moms'.
• Reply #2 10/08/08  1:11am
  
  midspi
  Here is a suggestion; if you don't use it. Do what I have done with items that I have found around the apartment that were my mom's...I have placed them on shelves in the living room. This way I can see them; and think of the great memories that I have of my mom & dad. Sure..at times when I look at the items; I cry...but not as long as in the beginning.
• Reply #3 10/11/08  9:23pm
  
  MamasChild
  Yes, Rachele and Midspi - This knee warmer was something Mama just LOVED - probably because I made it, but also because it was just the right size (as I'd planned) not too big that it would get caught in her feet when driving, etc. And, Midspi, that's a great idea but my whole house is like what you described. Mama made this house what it is. (although I'm messing it up) Furniture, everything, except the few things I've done my way lately - are the way Mama had them. If I put things on shelves (a great idea) they'll get dusty. Better that I use the knee warmer this winter - and remember whose knees it used to cover. *tears here*

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