Joyfulgrl

Mom's Home

Posted on 07/23/08, 05:11 pm

I just found out that my step father is losing the house that my Mother and he mortgaged together back in 2005. Its going to foreclosure........allegedly. I don't trust him really but there is a slight chance that he is telling the truth on this. I also found out that my Mother's cell phone is still turned on. So, I called it and just listened to her sweet voice that I thought I may have forgotten "Sorry I can't get to the phone....." I realized that I haven't forgotten. I think its permanently etched in my heart or something. I'm teary eyed but okay right now. Its been 10 months since she's been missing from my life.

I feel bad that her house that she worked her whole life to have is being foreclosed on. I know in the grand scheme of things....what does any of this all matter. Its just that its something tangible. To know that somone else is going to be walking in her home that's not me or my family hurts for some reason. I'm not sure why.

• Reply #1 07/23/08  5:15pm
  
  Dez
  When we are greiving...everything becomes a symbol to the person we have lost. Your Mom's house was home to you, because she was there. My Dad still has my Mom's cell phone on..so, us kids could call when we wanted until we worked through our grief. It has been 19 mos. and I still call it every now and then to hear her voice. I understand how you feel and my heart goes out to you today. (HUGS)
  
  Desiree
• Reply #2 07/23/08  5:50pm
  
  HollyNRK
  (((Joy))) I am so sorry, hon. I know what a loss that is to you. It was her home...and your home... because of the happy memories there. So it does matter, because to you it's another piece of her that is lost. We are all grasping at any little thing that is tangible that is left of our Moms. No matter how small or insignificat something is, if my Mom bought it or even touched it, I will not throw it away. And this is your Mom's HOME!...So, the hurt and pain you feel is absolutely normal and to be expected. And I am so sorry for that.
  :(
  
  But I am glad you gained something too...to hear her voice on her voicemail...it sounds like it brought you some comfort. You know that you will never forget her. You still remember. Our Moms died within weeks of each other so I know from experience what a Godsend that is right now as we struggle to remember every last detail of what they were like. Big hugs to you, sweetie. Love-Holly
• Reply #3 07/24/08  6:31pm
  
  lisa927
  That is so cool that you get to hear her!! We had my mom's greeting on her answering machine and my 2 yr old nephew accidentally erased it. That was the only sound of her I had left. I miss her voice and her face so so bad!!
• Reply #4 07/24/08  6:36pm
  
  LaRubia
  Joy - I'm so sorry for this news. *sigh* Of COURSE it hurts - you have so many memories there. But you've been blessed to hear your mom's voice - I hope it brings you comfort.
  Love 'n hugs to you -
  - Dawn
• Reply #5 07/24/08  8:33pm
  
  rachele70nj
  Joy, I'm so sorry. Feels like more loss on top of lossing mom. I know it must be really sad. I would feel the same. My dad has mom and his house currently up for sale and if a buyer should come along, I know the feelings would just rush in. Sending hugs over to you, Rachele
• Reply #6 07/24/08  9:36pm
  
  Joyfulgrl
  Thank you ladies for your wonderful support and most of all....for understanding!
  
  Love, Joy
• Reply #7 07/26/08  6:04am
  
  jeansbaby
  How nice to hear your mums voice!
  I understand you feeling the way you do about your mums house. yes it maybe a house, but it holds many memories for you and your mum worked so hard to get it.
  Love and hugs to you,
  take good care of yourself
  Sam
  xoxoxo
  

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