I feel like a crazy person.... All I want to do is cry..... Does it ever get easier?
Discussion Topic
How is everyone doing?
Posted on 05/09/08, 08:55 pm
We all have been through this terrible and tragic event in our lives, some more recent than others. But how is everyone doing with their loss?
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Reply #1 05/12/08 1:06am
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Reply #2 05/13/08 12:05am
I'm a new member, as of tonight. I see this group started May 7, 2008. Tnhje anniversary of my son's death is May 7, 2000. I'm wondering how recent are your losses? -
Reply #3 05/13/08 12:07am
I felt so crazy too. The pain was so intense, but I do believe time to have eased a lot of the craziness. -
Reply #4 05/25/08 5:56am
Hi I am new to all this this is my first time and also my first support group since my son Jacob Allen Quinn Hickman passed away on 01/25/08. He was almost 3 yrs old but meningococcal meningitis claimed his life Jacob died in my arms that morning. I can't stop crying I hurt so much my heart is shattered into a million little pieces. I wouldn't even get out of bed each day if it weren't for my other two young children Joshua who is 5yrs and Alexis who is 4 yrs old -
Reply #5 06/07/08 4:18pm
I lost my 25 year old grand-daughter on April 4. We still do not know the cause of death. I found her that morning. It has been a nightmare, trying to make since of her death. She was not sick that we knew of and had a 5 month old little girl. My daughter,Connie, can not sleep and is having a very hard time. Maybe after we get reports from the medical examiners office, we can have some closer. I don't think Cassie's death has registered with us yet. We know she is gone, but it doesn't seem real.
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Reply #6 06/29/08 8:29pm
I AM TRISH AND I HAVE TO TWO LOSS'S. I LOST MY SON TO SIDS IN APRIL 6TH 1994 HE WAS ONLY 6WKS OLD. I WAS DEVESTATED AND I WILL ALWAYS WONDER WHY AND WHAT IF. I ALSO LOST ANOTHER BABY IN JUNE 30TH 2005 HE WAS BORN AT 26WKS AND ONLY LIVED 90MINS. THEY BOTH NEVER GOT A CHANCE TO LIVE THEIR LIFE ! I AM A VERY STRONG PERSON THO I HAVE GONE ON AFTER EACH LOSS TO HAVE ANOTHER CHILD AND I HAVE TWO BEAUTIFUL BOYS THEY LIGHT UP MY LIFE . MY OLDEST IS 12YRS OLD AND MY YOUNGEST JUST TURNED 2TODAY! I FEEL VERY BLESSED ! I BASICALLY DEAL WITH THE GRIEF LIKE THIS I REALIZE THAT I CAN GO INTO A STATE OF DEPRESSION AND FEEL SORRY FOR MY SELF OR I CAN MOVE ON AND GET THAT DEVIL OFF MY SHOULDER AND BE THANKFUL FOR ALL THE THINGS I DO HAVE ! I REALIZE THAT I HAVE ALOT AND I WAS BLESSED WITH TWO EARTH ANGELS AND TWO HEAVENLY ANGELS ! -
Reply #7 07/04/08 2:48pm
I am doing terrible its the holidays.My daughter died to SIDS over a year ago in April 21,2007 she was 6 weeks and 2 days old.And i had a miscarriage in 97 or 98.She was healthy baby girl.My hubby and i was so proud and she light up our lives.Its hard during the holidays cause its just not the same.I just want to cry.I still have problems sleeping at night and i sleep in the bed where everything happen the night.I have that in my mind all of the time.And the what ifs still a little.And i look up into the heavens allot.I have been taking it day by day,But don't get easier.I can't go on pretending to be smiling.I am always sad and depressed.Please keep me in your prayers.I am blessed to have her & now she is an angel.
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Reply #8 07/04/08 3:38pm
I understand your pain, having lost my first grandchild Cassie. She was 25 and seemed to be perfectly healthy. The autopsy came back with no cause. That has been hard to,just like with sids. She went to sleep and didn't wake up. My daughter is having a very hard time and is angry a lot. I don't think we have dealt with the loss yet. It was such a shock.
I wish I could give you a hug and comfort you. I had four children and they are all in their 40's now. Just keep looking to God for healing of the heart. He helps me more than anything. When I lost my husband, it took me a long time to heal, but with God's help I have gotten through the hardest part. I know you only had your baby a short time, but you do have those precious memories and always hold them in you heart. God Bless YOu, Patsey -
Reply #9 07/04/08 5:45pm
I wanted to reply to aremark. Sweety in time you will see there is life after sids. Dont let this tradegy pull into that pit of despair. Get that devil off your shoulder and know that there is a light at the end of the tunnell. I have lost two living babies and I am still here and able to speak about it and went on to have two more beautiful babies because I didntw ant fear to keep me from what I know I great at being a MOM! You are a Mom never forget that! God chose you to be her mommy and for some reason God needed her more then you did if that make sense which I am sure right now it doesnt! You will go on but you will never forget it helped me to focus on what I did have and not on what I didnt. Like I would remember all the good times I had with my son before he passed the smiles the cooing the outfits he looked cute I tried to turn a negative into a positive and realized that no matter what it wasnt my fault and there was nothing I could have done to stop it.
Please take care and I am always here if ya need shoulder to cry on or you need someone to pick ya up when you feel that here is no one else there who understands I do !
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Reply #10 07/05/08 9:31am
I think that this great that we are all talking about the loss of our loved ones no matter what the cause is. I think that I am doing somewhat okay about my loss. My son birthday is coming up next month. It will be his first birthday that we not able to celebrate and I dread that day so much. But my family is prepared and I am taking my vacation that week so I can be me and not have to worry about going crazy.
It's weird about the whole kids thing. I am really confused as if I want to have more. Apart of me does not, not only because of the fear, but because me and boyfriend feels it would not be fair to our other child that we did not expereince everything with him as we would his brother or sister. It just would not feel right. But I don't not want to everhave kids again it's just complicated.
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