my dad is in prison now for seven years....trust me it is worth putting them behind bars...i have no relationship with his side of the family. none of them. it saddens me, buti neeeded santiy and i really didnt want the abuse happening to anyone else. what about the children in yoru family? rather they believe you or not, doesnt matter. you have to protect yourself and the kids around you. my neice was my saving grace adn pusher behind it all. she was barely two but every reason i never wanted my dad to be around her.
i had great evidence of the abuse, so his family doesnt have a leg to stand on and at this point they can all kiss my.....so do waht is good for you. you can always change your number, move, and do what you feel to make them leave you alone. you can put a restraining order on them that does include contact....the person you need to talk to is the DA of your county. they will point you to a private investigator who will handle all you need. be strong.
your sanity means so much. focus on that
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Legal Action?
Posted on 07/14/08, 08:10 pm
Since I've disclosed being abused by my uncle I have had nothing but harassment from the other aunts and uncles. One aunt, in particular, has been complaining to my sister about me... saying that I've "ruined the family... I'm a liar... and blah blah.. Anyway, so my aunt will not leave me alone and I don't know what I should do about it. She even went as far as writing a letter naming all the people that HATE me. She left a nasty message on my answering machine today. I'm wondering if I should call the cops? I just don't feel like I can bear it... because I know it's would mean getting uglier than it already is now. I don't feel strong enough. Any similar situations out there.. involving court and police?
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Reply #1 07/15/08 1:28pm
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Reply #2 07/15/08 2:40pm
Your anut's harrassment of you needs to be addressed one way or another. You deserve to be treated with respect. Perhaps you could begin by sending her a letter telling her to leave you alone. To cease and desist with all phone calls, letters, email - basically any form of communication. I'd say something to the effect of "please don't make me get the law involved to get a restraing order. That will follow you around for the rest of your life. I'm sure you don't want that." I would send the letter certified so that she has to sign for it and you'll have proof that she got it. If she continues to harrass you after that, you can go to the DA to get a restraining order. Save the nasty message on your answering maching as evidence.
I'm sorry she's making everything harder for you. Its hard enough to deal with sexual abuse without being harrassed for telling the truth.
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Reply #3 07/16/08 8:07am
I am sorry you are being harrassed like that. I agree with Sapphire and LoserGirl. Don't underestimate the strength you have within yourself. You have already shown how strong you are by disclosing the abuse. Don't let anyone take that power away from you. Hugs, Soleil -
Reply #4 07/16/08 12:32pm
Hey thanks for the encouragement on this. This whole thing just makes me ill.. I'm so tired of this. I wish it never happened. Thank you again. -
Reply #5 07/16/08 2:18pm
how are you today? i know its hard. a certified letter is a great idea. or even an email as long as she writes back so she cant say she didnt get that...its a great idea. i had to do it to my ex....and still had to get legal help. but having that certified letter saved me.... -
Reply #6 07/16/08 4:16pm
today is hard. I haven't slept in a few days. I just feel blah. really down.. I'm trying to keep myself occupied so I don't obsess over it. I think you're right about the certified letter. That's going to be my next plan of action. I'm so exhausted. Don't know how much longer I can do this. I appreciate everyone's support. It makes me feel less crazy. thank you hugs -
Reply #7 07/19/08 7:36pm
what your aunt is doing to you is harassment. it doesnt matter if she believes you or not. her opinion isnt what counts, neither do any of your other aunts and uncles opinions count. i would have your sister or another relative that you have a good realtionship with, intervene on your behalf. have them go to your aunt and they can let her know that under no circumstances is she allowed to contact you, meaning phone, written, email or what ever. i would then follow it up with the certified letter to not contact you as was also suggested.
what happened to you is a horrible and you have every right to do what you need to for your own peace of mind regardless on how other family members may feel about it. stay separated from them. take care of your self. stay strong.
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