So true Kim.
Im the early days of my injury I couldnt take any steps , was so angry that i wouldnt talk ,and so scary most too a wide birth around me.
Onlong the way i learnt about goals .And started to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
nowdays i use goals daily and if the challange is too big or too much at oncer,i will break down the goal into steps , or smaller goals.
I used to be so stubborn , now after a tbi seems i have mearnt patience.
My recovery and healing has still a fair way to go but yes the light can be seen and my goals will get me there one day.
Daz
Discussion Topic
Trying to move on
Posted on 05/06/08, 08:03 pm
The first few steps you take on any journey won't get you where you want to go.....
But without those first steps and the many more that follow, you would always be standing right where you are.
I guess I look back on all the little things that once seemed impossible. I still have a ways to go, but it doesn't look like I'm staring into a black hole anymore. kim
But without those first steps and the many more that follow, you would always be standing right where you are.
I guess I look back on all the little things that once seemed impossible. I still have a ways to go, but it doesn't look like I'm staring into a black hole anymore. kim
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Reply #1 05/09/08 5:31pm
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Reply #2 05/22/08 8:49am
You're so right, Kim. On those rough days, it's good to be able to look back and see progress. It helps to get me though to realize that one wouldn't recognize the up days without a down day once in awhile. Nod to daz here.. I agree about goals, and they don't to be big ones. You can train yourself to achieve small goals and enable yourself to do more. -
Reply #3 05/23/08 7:38pm
I knew this last injury was a problem and started journaling again immediately.This my third tbi.It is the only record I have of the early days post injury other than others perceptions.I journaled for a long time after this last tbi and found it helpful.Yes on bad days reading those early journals does change things. -
Reply #4 07/24/08 12:41pm
This is a hot topic for me! I can't wait for the day when I can see or taste the other side of my recovery. I don't need to know I'll be running or biking again, I just need to see improvements in being able to function better in the outside world.
I'm approaching 8 months and it's been the longest 8 months of my life. While I'm anxious to recover, I've also surrendered to the fact that it won't happen until my brain is ready. I try and stay on top of top of research, DS news, etc. and it's absolutely physically and mentally exhausting. I wish I had someone here part time to do all this for me. So, I'll just continue to do what I can.
I try not be negative, so when things are tough, I did deep for the positives in my life, like finding all of you here at DS. If I don't focus on the positives - I'll stay in the black hole and as we all can probably relate, it's not a pleasant place to be.
One day at a time...or sometimes, for me, it's minutes.
Brighter days ahead :-) -
Reply #5 08/03/08 7:11am
the brighter days do come , looking back now i see that alot of my recovery has crept up so slowly i didnt really notice some of it .
its only months later i think gee that was so hard before .
Goals setting is a great start i think .
Then after that becomes 2nd nature i sit here now finding it hard to keep the drive and intrest in things i pushed so hard to do in the early months.
recovery from a brain injury has so many different stages and hidden emotions .
One day we all will be able to write a book about it .
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Reply #6 08/05/08 11:29am
I completely agree! A book is the way to go and what a book it would be with everyone's input here at DS! The information would be coming first hand from the survivors and their family members.
I keep my daily goals small so that I don't get too overwhelmed and I recognize when I complete them. Kind of give myself a high five for my accomplishments.
I feel the same way about keeping an interest in things. I don't know why that is? This recovery is impossible for anyone outside to understand.
Daz, your photo's crack me up! What am I looking at?! LOL! -
Reply #7 08/07/08 5:31am
hha im not sure what his doing june ! funny though .
i think he is head banging or something ??
i try to find a new gif to post every week , its sorta a new thing ...
lol
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Reply #8 08/10/08 10:47pm
When some recovery comes its a gift, you can't understand what up untill you notice it gets easier to smile about what seemed impossible. Does that make sense?... For me it's like learning to trust myself again. Yes i recieve a lot of coaching. But it's worth it! Ahhhhh... -
Reply #9 08/12/08 11:17am
I love Chuck's reply (as I laugh out loud looking at DAZ's head banging cool dude sharing the piece symbol!! LOL!)DAZ, this dude is making me dizzier than I already am ;-) LOL! When he finally stops banging his head, he'll understand how I REALLY feel on a regular basis! LOL!
Every little piece of recovery is a GIFT and I'm noticing along my journey that I'm FINALLY smiling more, too. That alone is heaven to me. Chuck, I love the point about trusting yourself again. I never thought about it that way, but it's so true.
Thank you for sharing that ;-)
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Reply #10 08/15/08 6:02am
Trusting yoourself again is one of my big hurdles !
I can go for weeks thinking Ive remebered everything Important ( without using my diary for every little detail)
Only to be reminded of things 2 weeks later i had forgotten and My Girl Shaz hasnt wanted to make me feel bad and remind me of !
Comes back to the 4 steps forward and sometimes 4 , 5 steps back thing.
for me there has be nothing constant about my injury of recovery from it .
every step is 123 forward and a slip back here or there.
Throw in the not being able to remember it , and the joy we feel once we get that next step.
Mix some emotion and feeling in and yeah...........
no wonder no one can really explain recovering from a TBI hey !
I think back to the days i couldnt walk and couldnt talk ...
SAD ,, But so easy to let go of now i have over come that and it hasnt popped its ugly head again ! touch wood.
Even once i thought id stopped slurring I was told i still was .
somewhere along the line we achieve enough to keep going and soon enough a new stage begins.
getting back to the topic Trying to Move on ,
Its great how after we are forced to go through this recovery we all here and In the main group thrive to helps other get throught the same we did so hard with words of wisdom and support no one eles can give.
Ever brain Injury rehab world wide should have a survivor working woth them .
That is one day where i hope to move on to ...
Daz
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