mwolf

Need an idealistic bump.

Posted on 04/14/08, 05:53 pm

I got involved in some ugly things on here last night doing what I thought was the right thing. I still think it was but somewhere along the line I lost my objectivity and sunk into the dung heap of the dreaded TROLL> I know I did not do it in the right way. Help me here people who have more experience with this. How do I not get emeshed in this stuff yet still defend those I care about?

• Reply #1 04/14/08  6:21pm
  
  Whitebird
  I don't know what happened last night as I rarely surf the boards these days. I usually PM my friends with support . give advice only when asked.
• Reply #2 04/15/08  2:01am
  
  nadareal3
  Good question!! I've been baited before, and gotten embroiled in the high drama. Wasn't pretty. These days I just stay out of it, and if I feel the need to support and/or back up a friend, I do it in a PM, and also offer hugs/flowers. I have found that if I try to do that in the post itself, it will tend to fan the flames. Hope this helps.
• Reply #3 04/15/08  8:08pm
  
  mwolf
  It does. thank you both. M
• Reply #4 04/25/08  5:59pm
  
  Flutterofwings
  If I fear what I may say, will stir the pot worse then what it is. Then I will write the person a message just to them for support not on the boards.
• Reply #5 04/25/08  6:40pm
  
  Daisylou
  It's not necessary for you to defend your friends on a thread which has gone negative. Remove yourself and be encouraging and be a friend to them in PMs and hugs. After all it's really only important that the friend knows you love them, right?
  
  you don't have to prove it to whomever is antagonizing them, because after all, there's not really much you can do to them anyway.
• Reply #6 05/03/08  12:39am
  
  Snowflake138
  I agree with NADAREAL3 100%. If these people get no attention, no response, they loose their "control" now don't they?
• Reply #7 05/12/08  2:54pm
  
  Waveride
  Dumb question, but i havn't worked out yet; What is a 'Bump'?
  Like, is it like a copy of the previous post for emphasis?
  
  Hear alot about these trolls and ppl being banned, hope I learn from ur experience. W
• Reply #8 07/05/08  12:30am
  
  kaywifh
  ignoring them is in my humble opinion the best defence and being aware that you are indeed being baited, that your buttons are being pushed. give up control of the dialogue and the dialogue ends. if someone is yelling at me and i don't yell back then all they're going to hear is their voice and it will subside.. the trick is preventing yourself that first retort.
• Reply #9 08/21/08  7:23pm
  
  kjl1951
  IT MAY SOUND DUMB, BUT I AM GOING TO TRY ANYWAY. I NEED TO BE MORE POSITIVE AND IF HATEFUL RUDE PEOPLE START IN I AM GOING TO FLOOD THEM WITH KINDNESS. MY MOTHER IN LAW IS ALWAYS IRRATIBLE WITH ME AND SINCE I HAVE ONLY SMILED WHEN SHE IS MEAN IT HAS LET SOME OF THE WIND OUT OF HER SAILS. I FIGURE I REALLY CAN'T LOSE MUCH. I AY EVEN IMPROVE MYSELF WHICH NEED. LOL

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