tmason88

HOW DO YOU COPE WITH DEATH of A LOVED ONE or CLOSE FRIEND?

Posted on 07/16/08, 02:02 pm

I'm doing a project at school and the topic is Coping with death, and I wanted to ask you guys to help me with it, Then I'm going to put all the answers into a chart.

Thanks for your input.

• Reply #1 08/15/08  9:10am
  
  Brother2NAngel
  All I can say is this: When a loved one or a close friend dies, it's gonna be hard on you yes, and yes it will hang over you for a while, but don't hang on to it for the rest of your life. Believe me, I've been down that road and it was ugly. To put it simply, yes when somebody dies, it's gonna hurt, but don't hold on to that hurt.
• Reply #2 08/15/08  2:02pm
  
  AngeGirl2007
  When I lost Angel last December, the pain and the grief were overwhelming. I was sleep-deprived because I couldn't deal with the nightmares (I'd lost her in my shower...even held her...saw her little hands)....I couldn't drive because of the mental and emotional fog I was in...I am only now beginning to drive again....I forced myself to eat....my weight has been up and down....I sank into a deep depression which I am still taking meds for....I was barely able to function...I hurt physically as well as emotionally...the cramping and fatigue were unbelievable! I slept, I cried, I breathed in and then out all the while wishing I could just stop breathing. I held in a lot of what I was feeling for the sake of my other children but it just hurt them and made me even angrier and harder to live with. I couldn't even look at a baby or a pregnant woman without breaking down and just seething with rage on the inside. It has been nearly eight months since her passing and I still ache for her. I miss her intensely. I think of her always but I am able to think of her now without the constant barrage of tears. I can think of her and smile. I know now that I can enjoy her sister and brothers and that it is okay for me to move forward with my life because she is still and always will be a part of me. That is something that death will never take from me! And I know that the day will come when I will be reunited with her the way we couldn't be here. She has attained perfection and I have to admit I have times when I'm almost jealous! :0) I had to take certain steps in my grieving to help me get to this point...otherwise I don't know where I would be. If there is anything else you would like to know please feel free to PM me...you can also check out the site I made in Angel's memory. http://Angel-Denniston.virtual-mem...

Losing a child is the most devastating thing any woman could ever endure but without the love and support of her partner the grieving process is even harder. Even without being a single parent it is so easy to feel alone. This is for us who are going it alone one way or another while trying to move forward after the loss of our precious babies.