Jessie86

Godparents

Posted on 06/14/08, 02:04 pm

Hey Ladies!
I have a question that may seem a little strange. I was wondering if any of you thought about having a Godparent for the baby you lost? I've been thinking about it and I would like to have someone around on the anniverseries just to chat with or have some kind of ceremony with. So have any of you thought about this or does anyone have a godparent for their baby? Thanks for reading this =)

• Reply #1 06/20/08  1:44pm
  
  RobinM2004
  I never thought of it.
  My understanding of Godparents, is that they help ensure your child is raised in your religious affiliation, in case something happens to you...
  But if it is something that will help you, go for it.
  
  My BFF, Tonya, was going to be in the delivery room with my DH and Me when we delivered...now there will be no delivery, but I know she'll still be there for me when the non-due date approaches. We'll probably go out, the 3 of us and do something special in remembrance of my Sweet Pea.
• Reply #2 06/21/08  11:25pm
  
  Jessie86
  I'm glad to hear that your friend Tonya is so supportive. You're lucky to have someone like that. That's what I wish I could have; someone to celebrate the remembrance of Morgan with. That's why I thought of a Godparent. Thanks for your positive feed back =)
• Reply #3 06/28/08  1:13am
  
  RobinM2004
  No problem. Look, noone has the right to tell you how you HAVE TO grieve. If something will make you feel more whole, healed, or just better at that moment...do it! I'm not saying something illegal or really bad...but it harms noone for you to appoint a "god-parent" type to be there with/for you. It is hard. I am just past my 5 month anniversary of my last of 3 miscarriages. (Jan 24th). Sometimes I am well enough that I just about forget, them other times it is like it just happened yesterday and I am mad at myself for going on with my life. It is a battle to fight everyday. I just do what I have to in order to get through the bad moments and pray that the good moments are more and longer lasting. My love and condolences to you. I'll be praying for you. If you need me, I am here.

Losing a child is the most devastating thing any woman could ever endure but without the love and support of her partner the grieving process is even harder. Even without being a single parent it is so easy to feel alone. This is for us who are going it alone one way or another while trying to move forward after the loss of our precious babies.