Discussion Topic
co-sleeping vs crib
Posted on 07/16/08, 04:21 pm
Okay so many of you know that we have been dealing with trying to get Gavin to sleep in his own room and I think I got a little too excited after the first couple nights of him sleeping in his crib.Because now he still does go to sleep at around 7:30-8 in his crib but then wakes up at about 9 and (I'm ashamed to say this) I take him into bed with me. I really want him to sleep in his own crib but then at the same time I love having him next to me and cuddling with him,but he squirms a lot during the night.I hate this,I know I kind of want my cake and eat it too! Does anyone else have this problem? Does anyone have any suggestions? Is there any magical age where he will want to sleep on his own? I'm horrible about sticking to my guns when he starts crying,I am the worst about giving in to him!
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Reply #1 07/16/08 4:38pm
Please be careful. Co-sleeping can increase the chances of SIDS. -
Reply #2 07/16/08 4:47pm
WHne the girls wake up during the night I try to let them soothe themselves (doesn't always work, especially when I don't want them waking each other up) But I may nurse them back to sleep then lay them back in their cribs. If it's after 5am, I bring them into bed with us to cuddle until 6 when we get up. -
Reply #3 07/16/08 5:30pm
I do know that cosleeping can increase the risk of SIDs.But for some reason I dont feel that threat when he is there with me,especially now that he is older.The first couple months I was terribly scared of SIDs though. -
Reply #4 07/16/08 6:15pm
Yes they do say that co-sleeping can increase the chance of sids but I don't know. I think if you feel comfortable with it then you will most likely be fine. I have been lucky Noah sleeps in his crib just fine. He did sleep in an Arms Reach co-sleeper for the first 4mos though. I LOVE that and would recomend it to everyone. When we switched him at four mos he did just fine. (I had to adjust more then he did!) -
Reply #5 07/16/08 9:41pm
We did the co-sleeping thing with Lucas at first, he was VERY colicy. He kinda let us know when he was ready to be in his own bed. The way I feel on this is as follows: Do what you feel is best. You are his mother and if the co-sleeping thing is what suits you, continue. Gavin will let you know when he is ready to sleep in his own bed. Good luck! :) -
Reply #6 07/16/08 9:55pm
we let our oldest co-sleep with us from Day 1. He's now FOUR and we're STILL trying to get him out of our bed!! LOLOLOLOL!!!! This time around with our 6-month old, he has been in the bassinet from Day 1 and then moved onto the crib. we ADORE sleeping with our boys, but we'velearned that everyone sleeps better when in there own beds :) Does Gavin take naps in his crib? Maybe that would be a start. Good luck sweets!! -
Reply #7 07/17/08 2:18pm
I am in the same boat as you. Jordan is 9 months and has been in our bed since he was about 2 1/2-3 months. I also love having him beside me in bed. I know they say it increases the risk of sids but I feel safer with him beside me. I tried last night to put him in his crib because I feel its safer in the crib now since he is crawling and we already had one episode of him crawling off the bed at nap time. He slept for maybe a half hour and I was having huge anxiety because he wasnt beside me. He woke up and stood up in the crib crying, I picked him up and put back in bed with me. I think I might could get him in there If I tried hard enough, but I am bad at sticking to my guns too. I think the problem with me is I feel like I need him beside me just as much as he wants to be beside me...I wish I had some answers for you -
Reply #8 07/19/08 11:51am
I am fearful of Ben (almost 7 months) sleeping with us, but he does it more and more, rather than less and less! I have a 9 year old who would still crawl in bed with us sometimes if we let him! My 6 year old NEVER wanted to be in bed with us - has wanted his own space from day 1. Ben will sleep on his own, but he wakes and wants to nurse back to sleep (a whole other problem) and by the second time he wakes in the night, I'm so tired I can hardly move, so I crumble and put him in bed with us to nurse and he usually never goes back because I'm too tired! I kind of think this is a personal decision between you and DH - if you are both OK with him there, then go with it, but if either one of you wants him out, it can be done! -
Reply #9 07/20/08 7:48am
Danny slept in a bassinet at the end of the bed until 10 weeks, then he started sleeping in his crib.
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