gcnsmom

why

Posted on 06/23/08, 10:52 pm

My stbx told me for the last 2 years that all he wanted was me out of his life and when i would start to go he would cry and beg me to stay. I would always stay and endure another beating while agreeing to stay. Well I finally left and today while I was at work my partor called me and said that Jesse had come to him asking for help in getting me to come back home. The pastor said that he is even willing to seek counciling. Here is the PROBLEM even though he has said he is willing to get counciling he has yet to seek it. The other problem is that I am not in love with him any more My papers are filled out ready to be filed. I have even met someone new that is wonderful to me and my children. So WHY now that I have left and started my life over is he doing all this now? I left him the buisness,house cars dished I left it all behind all I took was my clothes so why is he doing this to me he does not love me he just does not want me to be happy with someone else.

• Reply #1 06/24/08  8:11am
  
  julianna0415
  My stbex did the same thing to me. While I was signing my seperation papers with the lawyer, I got a call from hicholos pschologist/family therapist asking me when I wanted to set up marriage counseling. I was like what?! He tried saying that he had been diagnosed (miraculously after 12 years of abuse) that he was bipolar and that he was on meds. Take my advice and don't believe him. They can be really convincing...don't fall for it!
• Reply #2 06/28/08  2:30pm
  
  lilgost
  You are happy.. and that is driving him insane. He doesnt want you to be happy, he wants you to be under HIS control. Don't give him that power back.. you took it back when you left him the last time and he can't stand that.
• Reply #3 06/28/08  4:19pm
  
  34hope
  I agree with lilgost. It's about control. Keep on the path that you are on. It's obviously the right one. Jesse needs to work on himself. He is deeply unhappy and is in need of counseling. He is no good to anyone until he makes himself happy and no one can do that except for Jesse. You can only be in charge of yourself. Good luck.
• Reply #4 07/02/08  9:59am
  
  fatallove
  Living well is the best revenge and it looks like you are getting your revenge. Forget about him! He treated you like crap and now you've moved on. He can't stand it. Let him suffer. He was abusive to you and that's not acceptable, ever!! You've moved forward, don't move backward now!! Stay strong sister!
• Reply #5 07/10/08  8:12am
  
  danyellet
  It is called the jojo game. I think they all do it. I also agree with all of you, its about control and the best revenge is living well and being happy WITHOUT HIM. My husband now is much more of a man than my x ever will be. Sounds like you found a good man also. Good luck

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