kimi15

I need help

Posted on 08/15/08, 09:52 pm

Im trying to come out to my parents but im scared that they might not except me for who I am...what should i do?

• Reply #1 08/19/08  11:54am
  
  Alex89
  goodluck with that , aum well it all depends on wat kind of ppl are ur parents , but in general they will not accept it in the begining . if they dont just give them some time , they have to accept u no matter wat , cuz they are ur parents and they will love u no matter wat .its hard from them to understand too . well i wish u all the best and goodluck and stay strong ok , and its a huge relief after u do it , it feels soo good but be strong and good luck
• Reply #2 08/19/08  10:42pm
  
  SquidLady
  you might be surprised. i was terrified of telling my mom, but when i eventually blurted out "i'm gay!", she said "yeah, i know". i suggest sitting them down together on a day that isnt stressful for either of them so that they're both relaxed and less likely to make rash decisions or jump to conclusions. and i do not recommend having a big, long speech prepared, it's easier just to say it. as long as you know that this is who you are, you dont need to prove it to anyone! but if you really think they will react violently, dont tell them until you've moved out and can take care of yourself. good luck! i hope Alex89 is right and they will tell you they will love you no matter what!!
  <3, the squid
• Reply #3 08/27/08  8:32pm
  
  Alex89
  well i hope soo too , cuz they are ur parents , and they will give anything for you just for to be happy, but not all ppl are the same most are not all
• Reply #4 09/29/08  4:27am
  
  blissfallen90
  Have a looksie (this might help) -
  I was terrified to tell my mom. She always seemed to be making gay jokes and things like that. I remember the day I came out to her so perfectly - like it was yesterday.
  We were in the car and somehow we got on the subject of how she would react if I was gay.
  She told me she would take me back to the hosiptal and tell them they gave her the wrong baby - cause she wouldn't raise "no gay kid".
  I was in the backseat, so she didn't notice me crying the whole way home.
  When we got to the house I ran straight to my bedroom. I had to let her know, but I knew she'd hate me. I took a permanant marker and scribbled all over my walls :
  
  "I'M GAY AND I'M PROUD!!"
  
  I must have written it 100 times before she came in to tell me dinner was ready and seen it.
  She started crying, and I could have sworn she was gonna hit me. But she just told me she was sorry, for making jokes and being unconscious of how her behavior was affecting me. She's okay with how I am, and she's what she says is "proud of her gay girl parent".
  Not all parents are going to be like her.
  I've heard some awful stories of when friends have come out. Just make sure, that if you're parents are the type to go crazy over the info that you make an escape route. No one wants to be stuck in a scary situation.
  And while coming out is scary all in itself... it's also SOOO relieving. To just have all of it off your chest. To feel free.
  I've been out for years now. And I'm gay. And I'm proud to wear the 'Recruiters' shirt, (which is black with rainbow letters!! *at Hot Topic*)
  
  hope this was helpful!
  Raine

this is a group for teens that are proud of who they are and that would love to meet new people