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Do you think that you can get through this ?

Posted on 04/09/08, 01:13 am

That was the one question that I always asked myself after my rape. Can I make it ? I had days that I didn't think so. However, after a few years and lots of knowledge and tools to help me get achieve my goal, I am a strong survivor. I can finally LOVE myself..... yes, love myself. I truly believe now, that it was NOT my fault. I have my life back on track and so can you. Let me know, how you feel....... letstalk08. I am here for you all.......

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Reply #1 04/13/08 9:12pm

laurenb5

i don't think i can get through it.
Reply #2 04/14/08 9:15pm

letstalk08

HI Lauren,

I remember, when I felt like I didn't think that I couldn't make it through. This is normal to feel that way. Yes, you are normal for such an abnormal and traumatic situation that happened to you. However, You have to believe that, with your whole heart. I am NOT saying that it is going to be easy or just a snap of your fingers and you are better. There is time, positive thinking, surrounding yourself with people that know what you have experienced and can help. Don't hold things in. Remember, that it was NOT your fault. Easier said than to believe, I remember..........but, it is TRUE. You need to be easy on yourself now. Start to do little things at first to get there. Look in the mirror everyday, and say at least one good thing about yourself. If there are a few, then great. But, at least ONE. Say it everyday. Even if you don't believe it now, say it. After awhile, approximetly 22 days or sooner, you will believe what you tell yourself. Then when you achieve that, add another one and so on. This does work. I didn't do it for a long time, I thought that it sounded too silly or just couldn't do it, then I thought, why not try it. So, I did. What a huge difference it made. I started to feel better and better. I talked to women in groups and had one on on professional counseling also. It has made me believe in positive thinking and to know who to have in your corner right now. I would love to tell you more. If you want to know more, just ask.......

The key is to get to forgive yourself and love yourself. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. BELIEVE THAT...... Instead of saying, " I Don't think tht I can get throught it." Say, " I can get through this. " Believe in yourself. I believe in you. I am here, always.

Lets talk some more, K ? Anytime....

HUGGIES,
Vikki ( I know that you can do it. If I can, you can. I know, what you have been through. I had 12 rapists. I was drugged and raped for hours. Now, I am better and happier and much STRONGER in my life. So, you Can do it, sweetie. Lean on me, k ? )
Reply #3 04/30/08 2:00am

Person913

I hope I can...I just don't know how much longer I can deal with this, it's driving me crazy
Reply #4 05/01/08 11:07pm

faeriegirl658

I'm right there with you. I can't get through this. I was HURT (it is hard for me to say the word) 3 years ago this year. March 29, 2005 to be exact. I ended up pregnant from it. I was also HURT when I was 8 years old. I always thought that when I was 8 years old it happened to me because I was doing things at that time I wasn't suppose to be doing and I promised that I would never do anything I was suppose to do again if God wouldn't let me get HURT like that again. Well, it happened again and I sit and wonder if there was something in my life at that time that I was doing that wasn't right because God let it happen again.

I have been a cutter for a while because I want to be able to feel and know that it isn't in my head. I feel so lost and alone and don't know what to do.
I feel like I am going crazy. Am I crazy?
Faerie
Reply #5 06/19/08 10:18pm

livingstrong

i feel like i can't get through this either.. and i feel really alone and like ia m going crazy as well.. im here for you faeriegirl.