I just joined this group and thought I would share my story. I have been married to my wife for seventeen years. Somewhere along the course of raising two boys and advancing in our professional careers my wife and I drifted apart. The drift became very apparent 5-6 years ago when my youngest son started grade school. We talked very little at home. My wife began telling me she really disliked any public display of affection, said she just didn't like that. Her work environment became more dominated by older professional men, a lot who thought social banter in the work place was not only acceptable but encouraged. She soon began talking about "Darren" from her work, what a great guy he was, visits with his elderly mom, treats people great etc. I guess you know where this is headed. Began noticing phone calls on her cell phone to "OM" most afternoons when she left work. She began to go out to drinks every so often with the work group. On her way home she would talk to "OM" the entire way. Phone calls increased to on the weekends and holidays. Noticed a real change around the first of this year. Very distant, angry at me a lot. Got suspicous around Valentine's Day. Found two cards she had bought to give to him. One was overly romantic (think romance novel like) and the other was suggestive. These were definitely NOT the type of cards she gave me (usually the joke type). Then I found the one he gave her with a poem he wrote in it about his love for her was year round (I'm sure he copied it from somewhere)(the card was also very suggestive). Confronted her and she admitted something had gone on but nothing physical (I tend to doubt due to the suggestive nature of those cards). Been almost 6 months and I'm still trying to sort things out. Haven't forgiven her (really struggling with this) and things still somewhat distant. Not sure how this is going to turn out. I'm just need support from folks with similar problem.