kellie58

Gifts so Others will care

Posted on 06/19/08, 07:33 pm

I send more gifts and cards to family and never get a thank you
so I dont' know if I should send anything to those who don't say thanks
I feel like it might be better just to sedn a card>
What do others think?

• Reply #1 06/19/08  10:12pm
  
  Brighteyes4u
  Follow your heart. I say this because while it's great to get a thank you, when you are giving from the heart, I personally feel it's not necessary. However; I know your situation and with that said, and in your case I believe a card would be the way to go. I know that may have sounded a bit counterdicting but I know you will probably understand.
  
  I believe it makes you more sad and depressed to do what you do, so I wouldn't. If it hurts, don't do it. Does that make sense?
• Reply #2 06/20/08  8:03pm
  
  lokkingforp...
  How does it make you feel when you go and buy a present of a special something for someone? If it makes you feel happy then I think you have the answer. Sometimes people forget to say thank you but if they smile when they open the gift or a card that to me is already a thank you.
• Reply #3 06/20/08  10:25pm
  
  kellie58
  Thanks- I don't see them often so it would be helpful if they could
  call me or write note so Know they got the gift.
  Maybe?
• Reply #4 06/26/08  12:04am
  
  getfuzzy
  I once heard that a person shouldn't expect to be thanked for doing something for someone if they truly desired to humbly do something for that person. In other words, if they do something with the expectation of a thank you, then they are giving for the wrong reasons. Thus, I try to remind myself of that fact for the many times I reach out to people and never get thanked. It's hard because we all like to receive sometype of recognition for doing something nice for someone.
• Reply #5 06/27/08  4:00pm
  
  kellie58
  What happened to Loneliness and Friendless group?
  
  Thanks?
  
• Reply #6 06/28/08  5:28pm
  
  lokkingforp...
  No idea. Have you tryed contacting the person that started the group?
• Reply #7 08/04/08  10:27pm
  
  kellie58
  I think I will send cards for now
  because they don't seem concerned about me
  I just like a note so I know that they got it

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