Okay so warning, this is kinda long:

So, for those of you who don't know, my fiance left for Basic about four weeks ago but he got hurt so he'll be off to the actual training part of Basic sometime this week. He's not my problem. My problem is his parents! They are insane! Tim left on a Tuesday, the Wednesday after he left, his mom called me three times in a five minute period (I wasn't with my phone so she called three times right in a row!) His parents call me everyday and they call anywhere from 3 to 15 times. The first few days this happened my mother was like, "You need to set some healthy boundaries. Just call his parents once a week." So that's what I've tried to do, and I do mean tried. I decided I would call them on Sundays after I talked to Tim on the phone so that his parents and I would be on the same page. But oh no, they call everyday but I see their name on my cell so I don't answer. You think they would get the hint but they just won't leave me alone! And I probably wouldn't be so unwilling to talk to them if every time I talked to his dad he didn't lecture me! When Tim was hurt, he was writing in his letters that he was depressed and that made me sad and when I explained this to his dad he told me that he tried to tell Tim that he didn't really know what he was getting into but Tim made this choice so he doesn't feel bad for him. ? Tim is still his son and even if he doesn't agree with Tim's decision he can still feel bad for his son's unhappiness and depression! He talked to me and wouldn't let me off the phone for over two hours one Sunday! I can't do this anymore, they won't take my hints and now that I've stopped answering my cell, they call the house so I don't know it's them so I don't answer our house phone anymore, I let the machine get it so I can screen my calls! Has anyone else gone through this? I just know that if I don't set boundaries now, can you imagine what will happen when I have a baby--they will permanently move in with us!! Also, my dad called his dad a few years ago to talk about something (really not important) but Tim's dad said my dad yelled at him for 2 hours and my dad said they talked for 12 minutes! So I know if I talked to his parents and told them not to call anymore, they will tell Tim I said I hate them and never want to have anything to do with them ever again! So my mom suggested I mail them a letter to them and I mail Tim a copy so he can know exactly what I said. But Tim told me yesterday when he called that I should talk to his parents more--He has no idea what has gone on and his parents are obviously telling him I won't talk to them. I tried to explain it to him but there wasn't much time and he said just call because they are having a hard time with this. Well, I'm having a hard time too! It's not like I'm skipping around eating candy singing with all the forest animals because I have no worries! And when did it become my responsibility to make sure they were okay? They are adults! If they were my kids then I would be responsible but they aren't! It's not my responsibility to make sure they are informed, Tim is their son, he is writing letters to them and they are informed. Tim is writing letters to me so I'm informed, so a once a week phone call to make sure we are on the same page should be fine!
Any one gone through this? Any one a mom or dad that is going through something like Tim's parents and could give some advice?
Sorry this is so long but this is a sticky situation and I wanted some perspective.
Thanks,
Emma