KAnne1989

Anyone else ever done this?

Posted on 08/20/08, 06:19 pm

Okay, so I feel like an awful person.

I didn't even realize I've been doing it, but I've been hoping I could change Chad's desires for a career towards law enforcement or something of that nature. I realized what I'd been doing and am trying to stop...it's really selfish of me.

It's just having him join USMC terrifies me. Completely.

Has anyone else ever done this?

• Reply #1 08/20/08  8:35pm
  
  Brittanyg16
  i always give my b/f my opinion and what i would suggest and i give him my feelings on it. i try not to change his mind but i do feel selfish at times too. matt talked about leaving for a year to learn to become a helicopter pilot and he asked what i thought and i couldnt help but have tears in my eyes and i told him it was his decision but it would be really hard on us and he would have to quit school, he saw my tears and said no its ok i wont do it....turns out after that conversation he still went thru with the physical for it but failed b/c of his eye sight. its hard not to not be selfish i know.....just do the best u can and hang in there
• Reply #2 08/21/08  12:59am
  
  lostnlookin
  I've known my husband for ever. He signed up with the National Guard before he graduated highschool. I supported him then. His grandfather was in a war and his brother has been deployed more times than not it seems. It's in his blood to fight for his country. He's gone from unit to unit, branch to branch trying to find one that was on it's way but he always missed it. We got married in 06. He transferred to a unit close to home so he could be with us. Then we find out they are going to Iraq in 09. I'm upset about it but this is all he's ever wanted...the one constant in his life has been that he wanted to fight for his country, to follow in his granddad's footprints and not leave it all up to his brother to carry on. The day he called me and told me I told him 'it's only been a matter of time...you've been chasing war since 96...it's finally caught you.' If you love him, support him even though you may not agree with it. He's making one of the most unselfish decisions he can make right now because chances are he will be called to serve. They are doing something I don't have the guts to do and for that, I'm grateful.
• Reply #3 09/26/08  10:44am
  
  coastiemom
  God Bless "Lostlookin" It couldn't have been said any better. Dora

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