lostnlookin

how do you handle this

Posted on 08/17/08, 04:09 am

My husband has been gone for 2 weeks. He came home today. I was looking forward to spending some time with him alone as well as family time. When I got here he had invited an guard buddy to stay with us a few days which is okay. We live closer to where he drills and he has to be there monday so to keep him from driving all the way home for one night the offer was made. I'm okay with that. But what really got me is that my husband stayed on the computer all night long updating his myspace page. He barely got off to eat the welcome home dinner I'd cooked for him. At bed time I told him that it was disppointing and depressing that after being gone 2 weeks, he'd rather play online than spend time with his family. Have you had to deal with this? How did you handle this?

• Reply #1 08/17/08  6:34pm
  
  MediokerKate
  Wow.. I am sorry to hear that and yet I can defiantely see why you were hurt by this. Was he messaging people on the computer or just doing crazy profile stuff? What did he say when you brought up how you felt?
• Reply #2 08/18/08  3:47am
  
  lostnlookin
  Tweaking his myspace profile. That he had been on lock down for 2 weeks and needed time to unwind. I told him last night that it hurt my feelings and today when it happened again i told him that I was aggrivated with him. I understand that he needs time to do his stuff...but we need time with him, too.
• Reply #3 08/18/08  9:00am
  
  Brittanyg16
  i totally understand that. i guess thats just his way of unwinding even tho its not that fun for you and your family. im sure it will all be ok tho
• Reply #4 08/18/08  10:18am
  
  lostnlookin
  we're supposed to spend some time together today and actually have a conversation..i'll let you know how that goes.
• Reply #5 08/18/08  3:37pm
  
  MediokerKate
  Good luck! Keep us posted! Hope it goes well!
• Reply #6 08/19/08  4:41am
  
  lostnlookin
  Not so well...or not as well as I had expected. I journaled about it if you want the whole story.

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