Its a nutty situation.
I'd guess the best thing to do is get DNA paternity tests to establish the total liability being discussed in the divorce and establish the relationship between father and 'son'.
Discussion Topic
yes or no dna vote
Posted on 09/04/08, 10:56 am
This message is to get a vote if you think dna is warranted in this case.
facts mother father were getting a divorce. night before divorce next day they get back together.
child is born within a 9 month period.
marriage is horrible
husband finds out she has filed for divorce again when child is 18 mo old
husband finds out she has squirreled all the bill money and money he got from father totalling over thirty five thousand dollars
husband drinks excessively
husband walks off after confronting her with the divorce papers
wife refuses to let husband see child
husband does not pay child support
husband goes to x mother in laws to get his stuff and mother in law ask him how does he know that child is his
mother in law had pushed the couple into marring because she had knowledge of husbands parents getting large sum of money.
now husbands mother is old and lives well unknown to most it is a set up that will only last her life time.
husband and grown child make contact child does not look like anyone on mother or fathers side of the family.
now grown child always tells about financial woes when on the phone to father
when grown child told mother that he had made contact with father she threw a fit and forbid him to have any contact even though he is above legal age.
is it fair to grown child if husband is not the father to find out the truth once and for all or just leave things as they are
child confirmed that mother has much interest in men confirming what husband had said that was one of the problems in the marriage
i want this vote to be as completely unbiased as can possible be with this small amount of facts. personally i want the dna but i also want the child to be the husbands.
facts mother father were getting a divorce. night before divorce next day they get back together.
child is born within a 9 month period.
marriage is horrible
husband finds out she has filed for divorce again when child is 18 mo old
husband finds out she has squirreled all the bill money and money he got from father totalling over thirty five thousand dollars
husband drinks excessively
husband walks off after confronting her with the divorce papers
wife refuses to let husband see child
husband does not pay child support
husband goes to x mother in laws to get his stuff and mother in law ask him how does he know that child is his
mother in law had pushed the couple into marring because she had knowledge of husbands parents getting large sum of money.
now husbands mother is old and lives well unknown to most it is a set up that will only last her life time.
husband and grown child make contact child does not look like anyone on mother or fathers side of the family.
now grown child always tells about financial woes when on the phone to father
when grown child told mother that he had made contact with father she threw a fit and forbid him to have any contact even though he is above legal age.
is it fair to grown child if husband is not the father to find out the truth once and for all or just leave things as they are
child confirmed that mother has much interest in men confirming what husband had said that was one of the problems in the marriage
i want this vote to be as completely unbiased as can possible be with this small amount of facts. personally i want the dna but i also want the child to be the husbands.
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Reply #1 09/04/08 11:17am
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Reply #2 09/04/08 12:46pm
the divorce happned when the child was 18 months old. i am thinking that it would not be fair to the son or to the father since they are trying to bond. if they are not blood related the two of them decided that they just wan to be freinds. which would be ok. they have not seen each other since the child was 18 months old and he will soon be 27. i think that they both need to know the truth regardless.
can't some people get into some messes i personaly think that it is sad. -
Reply #3 09/04/08 9:50pm
I think that a DNA should be done before they would get to close to each other.. that would solve a lot of confusion going on right now..
I hope and Pray that it will all work out for the best.. Hugs to you Sally -
Reply #4 09/04/08 10:04pm
thanks i know it is such a mess i want for the best to happen but who knows. -
Reply #5 09/04/08 10:06pm
I know you do ... Love Simone
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