First off, you need to inform them about eating disorders, and explain what's happening when they're forcing you to eat more than your stomach can handle. But you need to let them know that if they step back you're going to continue with your recovery. And then you have to actually continue with your recovery.
Go with them to the doctors, and see a Nutritionist and a counselor of some sort. If you let them in on your struggle to recover, then more than likely they'll understand more. They'll probably let you handle it. You have to let them in in order for them to understand.
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All alone........family dosen't understand
Posted on 07/02/08, 05:46 pm
Hi, I am new to DS. I have anorexia and bulimia. It has gotten so out of control that my family has stepped in and are basically force feeding me. The problem is I am getting really sick. My stomach can't handle the food. I don't have anyone to talk to. I have never felt so alone in my entire life. I eat and then I get really sick. Either losing my food by going to the bathroom, or pains so bad I have to throw it up. I barely eat anything anymore. My parents don't understand and my husband seems blind to it. What can I do to educate my parents and husband so they will get off my back and stop force feeding me?
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Reply #1 07/03/08 2:49pm
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Reply #2 07/04/08 11:27am
Explain that you need to start off slowly, perhaps sit down with them and develop a food plan, starting with soup and smoothies and things and fruit, little and often, as your stomach gets used to food move onto light snacks and etc
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Reply #3 08/19/08 3:14pm
My family definitely didn't understand and didn't want to except it...until I went to rehab. I chose to have family therapy while I was there so that they could understand more and be apart and help hold me accountable without being too close. After all, it is my recovery and I have to want to do it. They can't force it or it will make it worse. Like the others have said, talk to them about ED, get them literatur to read, and even have them see an ED therapist or doctor that is familiar with ED. Help them understand, be active not reactive. -
Reply #4 08/28/08 12:39pm
I think all of the points stated here are valid. First they do need to be educated on eating disorders. Then once they acknowledge that its not about force feeding and they need to start you off slow since your body has issues with digestion and such. I wish you luck and hope they are willing to research, maybe they can go to somethingfishy.org they are a great source on getting people to understand eating disorders. I wish you well hun. :}
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