Hi
Your and my situation cannot be any more different. We are separated and I really love him, i just never felt secure with him even though we were together for 10 years. and now he is not doing anything at all to make me feel that I made a mistake and we should get back together. But I still love him and it hurts a lot. You are really brave as you seem to have gone through this phase and faced all of it.
How did you do it. How did you find courage to move on?
What do plan to do regarding your situation.
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A NEW START...
Posted on 06/25/08, 08:23 am
Well, My divorce is finally over. Not that it took long. Brian wants to stay friends and I guess that is ok. We had dinner last night toghether and I told him that I was a little angry at him. The second I left and started the divorce he starts to change in the ways I needed him too. So it is a bit frustrating to be around him. But I will try my best. I just don't want it to lead to us getting back together, which is what I think he is trying to do. Anyway, Hope everyone is doing well. Hugs Jane
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Reply #1 06/25/08 2:13pm
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Reply #2 06/30/08 7:57am
Hi rabeeya, Sorry it took me so long to reply. We seperated in January so I have had a lot of time to think and process this. When I first seperated I wasn't sure I was doing the right thing but as time went on and he kept doing his same crap I knew that I must move forward. I found courage in my family and in his family. My family because they were wonderful to me. Suportive, loving and not bashing Brian. They love Brian and will always love him but he wasn't taking care of a wife like he should. His family becuase they were so aweful to me. Calling me names, sticking their noses in to places they didn't belong. That gave me courage to, sounds funny but it did. It helped make my dicisson to move on.
I plan on countinuing a friendship with Brian. I never stopped loving him, just couldn't put up with his crap. We have dinner, no sex, no kissing though which is hard. But we were friends once before and it looks that we may be friends again. He talked to his Grandmother, who has been a doll through this whole thing, and she wants to see us. So maybe this weekend we will head to Louisville to see her.
I hope this helps you! Hugs jane
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