Morningtide

"Don't worry, you're young" Grr!!

Posted on 06/13/08, 08:29 am

Anyone else get sick of hearing the "you're young, plenty more fish in the sea" type of comments from people when talking about your divorce?

Just because I'm 25 it's supposed to be less painful or something? Getting dumped after a 7 year relationship would be worse if I were 40-odd? It really irks me how some people can be so flippant about my divorce just because of my age, like it doesn't matter because I've got plenty of time meet someone else (which is the LAST thing I'm thinking about right now!)

This has annoyed me before but it really got to me today when someone came to see me and it was the first they knew of my break up, their response was "you've got loadsa years left, you'll find someone else in no time" I was speachless, I mean WTF?!? Nice way to be supportive for one, but why do people assume that being younger means that you'll get over it in no time?

Grrr!!

• Reply #1 06/14/08  5:32pm
  
  kristen380
  I'm in complete agreement. I was 26 when I got divorced. Even my attorney said I would be remarried by 2010 so I should have fun for the next 4 years. I doesn't matter how old a person is...heart break is heart break no matter how you slice it. My biggest dilemma 2 years out now is finding someone worth while to even consider dating. Second time around I don't plan to settle. I'm sorry that people keep telling you "you have plenty of time to find someone new".
• Reply #2 06/15/08  2:21pm
  
  crystalgrant
  Or what about this one. You got married to young, you have plenty of time to meet someone else. I used to hear that one all the time. Which I agree we got married young but love is love and heart break is heart break no matter what the age.
• Reply #3 07/11/08  9:05am
  
  erinlyt
  I couldnt agree more with you guys.. You have plenty of time to find someone else.. your so young.. whatever
• Reply #4 07/14/08  1:44pm
  
  ubdiver
  I'm 24 and we have not signed papers yet, I'm still holding out hope, yet people are already trying to hook me up! It makes me so mad because I'm still in love with him and they know that. Just because I'm young doesn't mean that I can just move on that easily!
• Reply #5 08/08/08  5:36am
  
  AprilFlowers
  I completely agree -- My parents are the worst ones too! In fact they are already bugging me to go out and find a good guy. My mom even offered to pay for a online dating site for me -- I can't even consider having a man around until I figure all this out which might take a while.
• Reply #6 08/09/08  4:48pm
  
  iishnova
  I agree as well. As if being young makes it not such a big deal. Its still divorce and in my case its still betrayal. Just because I'm young doesn't make it hurt less

For all of us 20 somethings going through a divorce