DanityDoll

babies/pregnancy

Posted on 06/26/08, 04:56 pm

something that has been on my mind for a long time now is having a baby - i'm not in a relationship so i don't want to have a baby until that happens but i wondered if anyone here has experience of being pregnant through dissociation. the difficulties etc of that and whether it's worth it or not. i don't want to have a baby if it's going to end up making me very ill again or that my baby won't have the best quality of life i can give him/her.

• Reply #1 06/30/08  8:46pm
  
  Gilanon
  Been thinking about this one for a while. What it really comes down to is the person themselves. Each of us has our own strengths and weaknesses in being a good parent. Disso is no different as far as that goes. It's a part of who a person is and sometimes just another challenge in our lives. At worst we can always talk to our docs, therapists, councilors, etc about anything we may need to work on before having children. That goes with everything though, at some point we'd all have to learn how to change a diaper, make a bottle, etc.
  
  So depending on the person it may or may not be a good a thing. At worst it's just another goal that we'd need to prepare ourselves for and work towards. We have to be honest with ourselves and who else will be involved with the child's life (usually just the 2 parents) and make sure the child will be safe and taken care off. This is important no matter what the situation is. There are many worse things out there that are challenges for parenting than this, but over all it's important for us to do the best we can for our children.
  
  Also, I think it's important, no matter what kinda family yer in, with kids or without, that family therapy is at least looked into. Generally speaking anything affecting one member of the family will at least effect the rest of the family in one way or another. Therapy isn't always about "fixing" things. Alot of the time it's simply about making life better for ourselves and those around us.
  
  -Gil

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