Reddutch, I belong to a Lupus group too and have been trying to find the thread that you were referring to. No such luck, hard to say without being there, what exactly was said, but I do know I think I know you to be a very good natured, kind hearted person. I think it takes a lot to lose your cool and this other person must have hit something inside you. We are all intitled to our own opinions, but who are we to judge another's? The doctors themselves don't know everything about Lupus, that's why we are here, to learn from eachother. My case is a mild one, but I don't have all the answers and I'm sure this other person does not either. If something works for you great, tell others that may benefit, but we should not judge. Lupus like most things in life is unpredictible and different for each person that has it. Don't you worry my friend. Hugs for now!
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Discussion Topic
Judgement
Posted on 07/22/08, 07:33 pm
I do not judge others and consider myself a very liberal person. We all have our own paths and journeys and I'm just glad to bump into people along the way. I am trying to learn all I can about SLE and have joined a support group on another site for this purpose. There was a thread about natural treatments and everyone was posting things that helped them like exercise, diet, vitamins etc. This woman has to reply with a long scolding reply to all of us on the thread. My thinking is why should she care? Why judge? What purpose is there? I sent a long reply back and will probably get into trouble. I promise it wasn't mean and very nice, but they won't like what I said. What do you all do in the face of judgement? Do you bend or stand tall? Most of the time I stand tall, others I tend to bend.
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Reply #1 07/22/08 8:09pm
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Reply #2 07/22/08 10:30pm
It all depends on the situation. I normally stand tall and voice my opinion. Half the time people don't like my opinion. Oh well. -
Reply #3 07/23/08 3:49am
This was a totally different site, one on yahoo groups. I have been uncomfortable with this group and the advice that they give to all new members, so I haven't been reading or posting, but a topic came up and I jumped in with my info. I guess it was too threatening for someone who did not like the idea of lifestyle change. Jeffs Girl, I am glad that you stand tall. Who cares if they don't like your opininion? We always have something to bring to the table, be it a new slant or something others may not have thought of. I didn't mean to vent here, but this group is where I feel most comfortable to be me. Thanks gals. -
Reply #4 07/23/08 10:35am
I agree people shouldn't judge others -
Reply #5 07/23/08 1:52pm
I Very New to this Group, It is Very Comforting to Know that We Can voice Our Views and We Wont Be Judged. I am a Alternative Health Practitioner
and My Views can be out in Left Field sometimes. Love Roxie Goldiesmoon -
Reply #6 07/23/08 9:25pm
Red Dutch Girl, I now what you mean about judgment. I rarely get upset with other people, unless they judge or outrightly attack me.
I've been reading A New Earth, because everyone's been talking about it since Oprah made such a big deal about it. A New Earth talks at length about how judgment is what keeps us miserable. People judge others because it makes them feel superior to others and better about themselves.
But when you judge, you can't feel love or joy.
He says judgment eventually will attack every relationship. Judgment ends up destroying everything around it. I think that's a pretty interesting perspective. -
Reply #7 07/23/08 9:42pm
I think everyone has a right to voice their opinion... but they should'nt judge others for what they say. I believe that ppl who judge others and scold others about things are just plain miserable themselves! -
Reply #8 07/24/08 6:04am
Hey Cal, I started the same book, but haven't gotten very far since I've been reading a lot on lupus. I'm excited to get started as I saw one of the Oprah shows about it and had several ah ha moments during the show. I feel that some people get threatened by new ideas and work. Trying to control lupus by lifestyle change is a very difficult thing indeed. I have had to give up many things that I enjoy and I think that the women who responded with judgement did so because they don't want to hear that they have to give up their Ding Dons or whatever. A support group is the last place that one should feel judged, that is why I love DS so much. I have felt no judgement on this site. Sure some may feel what I and others are doing is crazy, but they keep it to themselves. My dear old neighbor always says that he is not wearing a black robe, so he passes no judgement. I like that line.
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