Discussion Topic
Cheating??
Posted on 07/19/08, 12:38 am
Ok ladies, I haven't made a topic yet, but here it goes: What would you guys call cheating on a spouse? Would a kiss be cheating? I have really thought this through and it puzzles me. For me cheating doesn't have to be all physical it is emotional also, for example when a husband is a jerk to his wife, but runs to his mistress sweet as honey. IDK, my friends and i have discussed it several times, but we cannot all agree.What do ya think??
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Reply #1 07/19/08 2:56am
i told my hubby even if just stares at a woman that is cheating!!!!!!!! especially if i am right there to c itLOL -
Reply #2 07/19/08 8:33am
cheating 2 me is having sex alwe's seeing the other woman -
Reply #3 07/19/08 8:36am
Cheating is giving emotions to others that should be kept in the marriage. The parameters will be set by each couple. Some may feel it's ok to kiss or have sex as long there is no exchange of emotion. Others may feel that it is cheating to even think about straying. My husband and I have clearly defined what we believe to be considered "cheating" and he had better not even think about it. lol -
Reply #4 07/19/08 8:20pm
I think kissing someone is cheating.
Has anyone ever watched the show "Cheaters?" -
Reply #5 07/19/08 9:13pm
I think anything you wouldnt say or do in front of your significant other if he was around is cheating. Like say sitting on another guys lap. Or cyber sex. And I agree that it can be emotional and not physical. If it takes away from the relationship, its cheating. You're cheating your wife/gf out of the bond that you two should have... -
Reply #6 07/19/08 10:59pm
CherieS, that is my thinking too. I agree 100% -
Reply #7 07/20/08 12:53pm
I think Reddutchgirl got it right on for us. We have what consider cheating and for us it is def sex of any kind, kissing and/ or be emotionally involved in a way that takes away from the marriage. I think if you wouldn't want your significant other to know about it, then it is wrong. -
Reply #8 07/20/08 1:26pm
I agree with SWeden04 I've haven't seen the show cheaters -
Reply #9 07/20/08 6:24pm
I don't have a clear definition of cheating cause I think it depends on the situation. If he goes to a strip club with his friends thats not cheating to me, its just really stupid and he better take a shower the min. he gets in the house cause those places are usually dirty. If he kisses, makes out, has sex with another woman that is cheating to me. If he hangs out at a girls house and they have a good time without doing anything sexual then I don't see that as cheating.
My big problem is understanding why men/women cheat in the first place. Obviously they're looking for something else or want some excitement or maybe going through a midlife crisis or simply not happy in the relationship,..so instead of talking to the other they usually go out and try to satisfy themselves. If a man isn't happy with me I want him to tell me, or if he doesn't want to be with me at all then I'd rather him be honest. People fall out of love and people make mistakes, I wouldn't be mad if he just told me the trugh. Thats just my opinion :p /end rant! -
Reply #10 07/20/08 8:52pm
Cherie, I agree with you. You said it very well. Anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner can be considered cheating. Definitely physical stuff like kissing, petting, grabbing, and sex (including oral, Bill Clinton!)
Kylie, I think that people cheat for different reasons. But often it's because their life and/or relationship has become boring or even bad. Then someone comes along that makes them feel sexy and excited. They don't want to break up and go through a whole ordeal of divorce, moving etc. They just want a thrill.
I think most of the time, but not all, cheaters are people who will repeatedly cheat. They don't have good boundaries with members of the gender to which they are attracted. They are kind of open to it if it happens, or if they feel certain feelings.
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