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Depressed Single Mom

Posted on 06/30/08, 12:21 pm

I'm new here as well and would love to chat with other single parents. My son has ADHD. He's a joy, but can be trying at times. He's 9 going on 4. Sometimes I feel that I'm at the end of my rope. I have my son most of the time. His Dad has him every Wed and every other weekend, so a lot is on me, but he is remarried with 2 small children, so he is very occupied with them. He's involved in my son's life and loves him dearly, but again, a lot is on my shoulders and feel like I'm totally weighted down in many ways. I feel like a frumpy, forty year old on my way out.........

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Reply #1 06/30/08 11:27pm

integrity1

Im with you! My son also has ADHD and when he is not on his meds he also acts 4. Its VERY frustrating. He has no idea he acts this way and cant understand why I get so frustrated. I have my son most of the time as well. His dad refuses to take him or his sister when he is supposed to.. holidays or weekends or summer visitation! He sees them one night a month.. he and his wife are in another town. Are you 40? Im turning 40 on Sunday!! Im so depressed with you! Tell me about what kind of activities your son is involved in.
Reply #2 07/02/08 12:11am

scgirl27

I have a 9 year old daughter is has ADD and im a single parent, her father isn't involved at all. I know how you feel, plus i have a chronic illness and going through chemo. Life is grand sometimes right? lol
Reply #3 07/02/08 12:55pm

debbiesu

I am sorry you are feeling so discouragd right now. Life can be brutal at times and we can feel so alone. I feel certain that this isn't what God had in mind when He put Adam and Eve in the garden and called it "good." I know it isn't. I have been discouraged as well, but I am praying and looking to God for help. I am determining to follow HIm as close as I can...Right now I have no transporation...I am 46 with a 19, 17, 16, 14 ,12, and 10 year old at home. I am currently unemployed...I actually had to quit work because my 10 year old was struggling so much in school and I had to homeschool him. My ex is good to pay his support which gets our rent paid, but falls quite short of meeting all of the ongoing needs.....food, clothes, car issues, my medical, etc. And worse than that, he never has regular visits with the kids. He too has started a new family and has a baby. It all really stinks. And I want to move forward but it is quite challenging at times. I am learning to live one moment at a time. I pray you find some good support.
Reply #4 07/05/08 6:25pm

traceyj813

I wish i could be of help but My daugther has ET and ADHD. My 8 year old has asperger and ADHD he is into everything and starts acting out when you do not understand him. then i have a teen that sleep and eat. There father pays child support at least he does that. But he left me0 for somebody younger. he told me in the courtroom when we were stand in front of the judge it's too hard to take care of 3 kids when 2 are retards. i try everyday to forget that. But for some reason I can't.
Reply #5 07/15/08 2:58pm

twinglesMom

You are not alone. I have four children, my eldest daughter has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder & schizoaffective disorder, my youngest daughter (a wonderful NEW addition to my family) has been severely sexually, physically and mentally abused, my eldest son (twin A) has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, NVLD and ADHD, and my youngest child, (twin B). To say it's a daily struggle is kind of putting it mildly. To top it all off, I suffer with PTSD - including severe chronic depression and severe anxiety. Hmmm. Maybe I should shut up now - you probably think I'm the director of a loony bin.... lol

Anyway - it's hard, but the love we have for our kids keeps us going. You're not alone, we are here to help and support one another. Big hugs to you!!!
Reply #6 07/15/08 3:00pm

twinglesMom

Jeez. Just re-read my post and realized I never finished the sentence about my kids. Youngest son suffers from depression because his twin is so severely disabled. Anyhoo... sorry about that.
Reply #7 07/17/08 11:54pm

enumber1

Too funny! I will be 40 this month!
Although I did not have the challenges of ADD or the likes, I have been dealing with the challenges of teenagers! That has been the toughest thing I have had to deal with in all of their years. Now I know why people say to enjoy them when they are little.
I too struggle financially, but keep on keeping on. I have recently started my own home based business after losing my job after 14 years...it's been a tough year period!
I'm glad I found this group and together we can prevail!
Reply #8 07/22/08 8:07am

shady39

well reading all your letters i find myself in the company of friends as i am a single parent who is solely responsible for my children, but one has recently moved to Perth to live with my sister which is a bit of a relief as my daughter is a type one diabetic on insulin who as the specialist have said to me is one of the worst in the country which i would agree with and it is a struggle every day, i cannot work as she needs to be monitored every day we are constantly in hospital i feel like it's my home i wish it wasn't that way i have actually felt like i don't exist at times. One thing i would say it is very hard when you have to be responsible for everything add depressed and it seems like the end of the world but being in touch with others of the same mind i feel a bit better.
Reply #9 07/22/08 6:25pm

integrity1

Thanks all for responding.. your words are very encouraging. thank you.
My depression is lifting.. Ive had some talks with my friends and have started exercising a little every day on my wii. Its fun so it keeps me going.. it really helps. If you are thinking of getting a wii fit or playing wii sports its definitely worth it!! Wii fit ranks you so its fun to try to get first place, lots of great balance games for posture.. I have more fun playing the games on wii sports.. more active for longer periods than with wii fit. ANYWAY, thanks again for your encouragement.. I REALLY appreciate it.
Reply #10 07/22/08 6:39pm

integrity1

Thanks all for responding.. your words are very encouraging. thank you.
My depression is lifting.. Ive had some talks with my friends and have started exercising a little every day on my wii. Its fun so it keeps me going.. it really helps. If you are thinking of getting a wii fit or playing wii sports its definitely worth it!! Wii fit ranks you so its fun to try to get first place, lots of great balance games for posture.. I have more fun playing the games on wii sports.. more active for longer periods than with wii fit. ANYWAY, thanks again for your encouragement.. I REALLY appreciate it.