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Posted on 04/11/08, 01:30 pm

Please tell us your story so we can get to know you.

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Reply #11 04/27/08 2:46am

poetic1

I know in the face of adversity it is hard to remain strong. But you are not alone, no matter how huge and massive this world seems to you. Do not let anyone steal your joy, and remember there is nothing anyone can do to you that time and God won't change. Talk to the people on this website, let us be your family and your support. Maybe you don't realize how much we need you also. I pray you find your portal to the world and all the blessings your deserve overflow into your life. I am here if you need me-Poetic1
Reply #12 05/02/08 2:49pm

gotsanity

I as well at not sure how to even start from the beginning. I want to take the time to read some of your lives events and stories and maybe in reading others pain and life stories I can begin to open the door into my world.
Reply #13 05/04/08 7:09pm

ksbrock

Well I am 34 year single mom as of 2 weeks ago. I was with my boyfriend for 11 1/2 years and have avery close relationship with his family. My breakup, though we have been having problems on and off for the last few years, came suddenly and I have found out thats it because of someone else-no surprise their!! Though of course he insists that is not the case, and I am a wonderful person and he will probably regret this one day...yeah. So anyway, I am trying to do my best for my 6 year old son...any advice andyone can give is greatly appreciated...Also my son, his dad, and his 1/2 brother all have either adhd, ocd or tourettes, and dad will not get help and is in denial, which has added to our problems over the years. :-)
Reply #14 05/07/08 11:52am

ncaddy27

Before I was going to tell my story I read a few of the stories already posted here. That's when I realized that my choice in raising my son alone hasn't been nearly as bad as I thought. I was 17 yrs old when I found out I was pregnant and had him 3 months before my 18th b-day. I had only been clean from drugs for almost a year when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared and alone and still in high school with my Senior yr left. I wanted more than anything to finish school after going through everything and turning my life around. I decided that I was going to keep my baby with or without the "fathers" help. When I was 5 months along in my pregnancy I moved back to GA with my mom to have my son. I lived with my mom until my 21st b-day my mom helped me with watching my son during the time when we lived there. In Feb.02 she was diagnosed with breast cancer and has been fighting the cancer for the last 6 yrs now and it looks like I may loose her this time around. She moved back to IL where our family lives in 04 leaving me here (my choice). Since my sons is the eldest of his "fathers" 5 children we don't receive ANY support from him or his family. It has taken us 10 yrs for a paternity test to be taken but his "father" went on 4/14 and we went on 5/1 to take the test now all we have to do is wait for the results. Anyhow I have taken FULL responsibility for my son and believe I have done a great job on my own, but as my son is getting older he is becoming picky eater and very disrespectful. I am going insane trying to find a way to get him try certain foods and being on a budget limits what there is to eat, but there is ALWAYS food to eat (it may not be what he likes but there is healthy food choices for him). He is getting older and becoming more independant and more mouthy. He has started to be disrespectful towards me and I want to find a creative way to nip it in the butt before it's too late. That's all I have to share right now, btu I'm sure the more I'm on this site the more you'll see from me. My heart goes out to those who have had it rougher than myself. I've had struggles in the last 10yrs, but reading some of your stories makes my problems look like ant mounds compaired to yours. I hope that I am able to help someone else while I'm here.
Reply #15 05/08/08 5:59pm

tamsta

hi my name is Tamy i am 22 and am now a single mum to a two year old girl! well to begin with i didnt have the best upbrigin i could have askt 4 my mum remarried wen i was 5 and went on to have another 4 children and she already had 3, so with 7 children in total and a husband like hitler my mums house was run like a milatary operation, no love just lots of rules! so at 15 i ran away from home! i moved in with a local man who used me! in sooooo many ways! then one day i met a man who lived hundreds of miles from my family he was tourin with a club, he took a genuine interest in me and made me feel adventerous like life was worth livin and to take chances! after he went back to his home town i made a huge desision! i packed up wat little i had and moved up to were he lived within months we had moved in together i had a good job and things were good! we got married! my mother forbid me to marry him and swore that if i did she would never under any circumstances ever talk to me again, so me being young and believin i was in love i went ahead with it! the wedding day was arranged by his parents and that very night it was like a swicth had flicked. he beat me and repeatidly raped me and thats how it carried on for the whole time we were married he isolated me from everyone. even made some people believe i was crazy. then i discovered i was pregnant, this was the last thing i wanted! but i went ahead with it 4 him believin things mite get better! they didnt!!!!!!!! i couldnt bond with my baby n proffesionals said post natal depresion. i never mentioned the abuse, was too afraid. this went on 4 another year me pretendin to the outside world that life was cozy and inside i was screamin and plannin ways out all the time! one day just after my little girls first birthday he woke he up and bought her into our bedroom were he atacked me with her watching! he actually got some sort of a kick out some one seein all the power he had over me! he threw me out of the house and i left in a daze wen a friend found me n tok me to the police station! eventually we got my little girl away from him and we went and lived in a hostel were he couldnt find us! we were moved around and in and out of hotels every few days! it was soooo draining and i couldnt see a way out i was soo alone couldnt face pressing charges in court and at that point i was soooo very badly let down by the authorities. then i was so very on my own, no family, no friends, no support! just a one year old with me a waste of space mum! id let her down big style! you see wen id left home at 15 and was sufferin abuse i started cuttin myself wen i got a moment alone, to block out the pain! this stopped when i met my husband, he hurt me enuff every day we were together soooo.................... but when we were living in hostels and hotels after leavin him i started to seriously hurt myself again!! almost everyday 4 the last year and half i cut myself becuase i feel like such a failiure in life managing to mess everything up! i really dont want to keep doing it! am lookin 4 support and advice and maybe to see im not alone?!?!?!
Reply #16 05/13/08 7:47pm

angrymama

Wow, I have read through many of these stories and I can't help but cry and cry. I hope that I am taking steps in the right direction by being here. I am not a single mom but I was for 10 years. And though I am with someone right now that doesn't mean we'll be together forever. The memories of making it on my own still haunt me and I am not quick to forget that the only thing we can count on is change.

I became a mother at age 20. I did everything I could to make money without selling myself and I did everything I could to find a good man who would love us and make us the happy family that I always wanted. I don't think I can talk about much more because I'm sitting here sobbing.

I emotionally abuse my first daughter and I can't take it anymore. Her father is not and has never been in the picture. Its been me and her since she was born. I love her more than my own life. Every condescending glance, every insensitive response, every cruel world is now reflecting back at me through her. I see my mother in me and myself in her. I want to change. She deserves so much more than I have given her. I see my selfish, narcissistic, temper-mental, inconsistent self and I see the coldness in her eyes as she becomes old enough to judge me.

My daughter has watched me grow up but how can she see anything more than a crazy mom? She was with me through everything... the homeless shelter, living in our car, the trip to vegas where I got married to a stranger, the beatings from my violent husband, the broken windshields and stolen money, the degrading jobs making sub-standard pay, the abusive family ties, my spiritual search, the 12-step programs, stealing clothes and food to survive, the break-up of my relationships, the constant moving, the coming and going of fair-weather friends.... just a small, innocent girl watching her crazy mom struggle through life, promise after broken promise. I feel like the past has followed me through her and her eyes. I can't live down what I failed to do as her mother and my hope is that I can find a way to heal myself and her and not destroy our relationship with my anger.
Reply #17 05/17/08 4:26am

kellyrenee35

Hi. My name is Kelly. I'm 37 and have a 18 year old daughter. I was really young when I had her and though it's been rough at times, I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world! She's moved out to go to school and boy am I sad!! I miss her terribly! Kind of feel like my life is over!! Of course, I know it's not but it sure feels like it; she has been my life! I married her father but we divorced when she was 11. I had couple boyfriends after that but when it would end, she'd always say where's so and so at! Then I decided not to date b/c I didn't want to add that insecurity to her of why do people leave? Luckily I had a very supportive family. My daughter and I had our rocky times but we've always been very close. So, now I just have to learn to live life without her!! In my home anyhow and its hard!! lol she's going to school to be counselor so I might be her first patient!!!
Kelly
Reply #18 05/18/08 8:51pm

cole1988

hi my name is nicolette i am the proud mother of 2 year old twins a boy and a girl their names are tyrique and jamari. i am only nineteen and alot newer to this than alot of you guys because alot of the stuff i am gong through right now is stuff you all went through when first becoming a single parent.i am a recovering sex addict so unfortunatly it was extremely embarrassing for me when i became pregnant because i had to ask alot of guys to do a paternity test, when the results came back they seemed so unfair the father was one of my older brothers friends who had participated in a threesome with me and my best friend from high school and this guy was not the kind of father i wanted for my children so i opted to just raise the twins myself my parents were extremely upset and have disowned me. i moved to new york almost two years ago and i plan on going back to school. i love my kids to death and i wouldnt trade them for the world but i can admit that i have been guilty of wondering what it would be like to be a normal college student instead of a hard working single mom who does her hair in the car on the way to work and spends her lunch hour at the daycare center ....its just hard and i dont regret the kids i regret the circumstances
Reply #19 05/23/08 6:32pm

cubanlucille

I am 25 years old and I am a single mommy of a 7 month old boy. I come from a broken home, my mom has been on drugs since I was 4, and my dad died in prison when I was 17. I have hustled since I was 15, and I was on all types of drugs since I was 14, I have been clean for 2 years and working full time for over a year. My fiance is in prison for 15 years, and I am trying to pick up all the pieces so my son won't have to experience the struggle as I did.
Reply #20 05/26/08 2:41pm

allminee

I married at the age of 18 and I was 18 when I had my first child and 19 when I had my second My husband cheated on me over 8 times and madye more but I thought he'll stop one day he love me but he never did so the last time he cheated he never came back and I dont wont him back it hurted so much will it still do But I'm learning how to love myself. I could never stop loving him I'm just learning to live without him I just wish it didn't hurt so bad. I'm learning every day and every day God puts a piece of my heart back together.