Well that has not happened to me so I can not relate, but I sort of had a problem like that with a friend a long time ago when I was in high school and all I can say is that if your friend is not willing to be there for you and listen to you when you need her the most she is not your friend because friends are supposed to stick with one another no matter what and through the ups and downs of life.
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Posted on 05/15/08, 04:20 pm
Hey Ladies!
I'm in a bit of a stressful situation right now and would appriciate advice or opinions.
My "best friend" of 18 years has let me down and disappointed me since my pregnancy and then m/c. I guess you could say it started the day I called her and told her that I thought I could be pregnant. She said that it was probably nothing and maybe I just had the flu. When I discovered that I was infact pregnant she disappeared for months. I was unable to contact her. A few weeks after the m/c I was able to get her on the phone. I told her that I was pregnant and had a m/c. She listened for about 5 minutes and then said she had to go. This was in October and she reappeared again at Christmas, took me out to dinner and then left again. I hear from her by phone about once every few months and she only talks about herself. We had been through so much together before, I thought she would stand by me when I needed her most. Recently she went around telling our friends that she was there for me during my whole pregnancy, m/c and I wouldn't have made it through it without her. I've tried to tell her how disappointed I am with her but she doesn't listen and seems convinced that she has been my #1 supporter. Now when she does talk to me I become SO angery. I'm happier when she is not around. I'm sorry that I've rambled on for so long ladies. But can you let me know what you think? Why would someone lie like this and say that they were there for me when they clearly weren't? Can anyone relate to this? Thanks for reading this!
I'm in a bit of a stressful situation right now and would appriciate advice or opinions.
My "best friend" of 18 years has let me down and disappointed me since my pregnancy and then m/c. I guess you could say it started the day I called her and told her that I thought I could be pregnant. She said that it was probably nothing and maybe I just had the flu. When I discovered that I was infact pregnant she disappeared for months. I was unable to contact her. A few weeks after the m/c I was able to get her on the phone. I told her that I was pregnant and had a m/c. She listened for about 5 minutes and then said she had to go. This was in October and she reappeared again at Christmas, took me out to dinner and then left again. I hear from her by phone about once every few months and she only talks about herself. We had been through so much together before, I thought she would stand by me when I needed her most. Recently she went around telling our friends that she was there for me during my whole pregnancy, m/c and I wouldn't have made it through it without her. I've tried to tell her how disappointed I am with her but she doesn't listen and seems convinced that she has been my #1 supporter. Now when she does talk to me I become SO angery. I'm happier when she is not around. I'm sorry that I've rambled on for so long ladies. But can you let me know what you think? Why would someone lie like this and say that they were there for me when they clearly weren't? Can anyone relate to this? Thanks for reading this!
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Reply #1 05/15/08 4:57pm
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Reply #2 06/04/08 2:29pm
Maybe in her world she feels she has been there. Unfortunately, it sounds like she is too wrapped up in her own world to see the reality of others. Very seldom is a friend a life time keeper. Most often friends are there for the season and maybe her season has come and gone. There is nothing wrong with that. Appreciate the times you had together and understand people grow and change and sometimes need to part. I hope you had other support during your loss. -
Reply #3 06/12/08 3:01pm
I understand completely. i even have family members who prefer not to talk to me about it or pretend it never happened or it "just nothing" and say "those things happen". it makes me very angry and frustrated. I feel like i have no one to support me...even now. But i hope that changes. i'll be here if you ever want to talk. Sorry for all your difficulties but know that i do understand and you'll be in my thoughts
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