lghatfield's Journal - DailyStrength Keep a personal wellness journal on DailyStrength to track your health and communicate with friends. http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal Fri, 05 Sep 2008 09:21:40 +0100 DailyStrength RSS 0.11.3.0.6833 (FeedCreator 1.7.2) http://dailystrength.org/images/comprofiler/female.gif lghatfield's Avatar http://dailystrength.org/people/211495 lghatfield's entry on 08/07/2008 06:38 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1233213 I finally did it today.  I got a retrainging order on that woman.  I am scared but yet grateful for having the strength to stand up to her.  I am disappointed the judge would not restrict her from the grave, but she cannot damage my property and the flowers and the plot is my property... Thu, 07 Aug 2008 18:38:50 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 08/05/2008 10:30 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1228881 yesterday i stopped at the cemetary on my way home from work.  between 4 and 430.  I remember looking at the clock when i got home thinking is oprah still on and it was 440 pm.  when i stopped there i watered the bushes first then the cone flowers and then on my hands and knees i care... Tue, 05 Aug 2008 10:30:11 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 07/25/2008 07:26 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1210489 I went out to my husband's grave today to water the flowers, and I found that shelly took my plant and threw it in the garbage and put her own plant in my pot and my plant stand.  What am I suspose to do.  I don't know where to turn.  I am so upset, and now my sonh wants to wr... Fri, 25 Jul 2008 19:26:54 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 06/30/2008 08:27 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1158546 as i pushed the save button for the last journal entry, my son went out on the deck and saw shelly walk by our house.  there is a trail that goes right by my house and she walks on that trail all the time.  i am sure she does this out of spite.  she is trying to intimidate.  woul... Mon, 30 Jun 2008 20:27:15 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 06/30/2008 08:24 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1158541 i just wanted to write about this weekend.  all my sister in laws and i had a garage sale at my home on  saturday june 28.  well guess who drove by the night before the sale and again the next day.  we saw her that morning right away and again throughout the day.  my father ... Mon, 30 Jun 2008 20:24:53 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 06/17/2008 08:01 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1129325 I know I already wrote today, but I had to write again.  I went to the grave today to water the plant for my husband and she took my roses I left there yesterday.  It is not even about my husband at this point with her.  First she takes the flowers my kids left and now the roses I lef... Tue, 17 Jun 2008 20:01:53 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 06/17/2008 10:00 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1128014 Fathers Day was a hard day not only for me but for my children.  All three of us work together, and when my daughter got to work, I could tell she was crying.  I struggled inside, but tried not to show it to my kids, knowing the day was worse for them.  We went to visit both grandfath... Tue, 17 Jun 2008 10:00:42 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 06/04/2008 09:43 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1100298 I actually have had a couple of good days.  I have felt a little strength these last couple of days.  But we all know that is rare, and I am sure it won't last for long. I went to the grave tonight and I could tell the ex girlfriend was there. She left a tea bottle with some flowers in... Wed, 04 Jun 2008 21:43:50 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 05/26/2008 03:18 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1079049 I am not sure why, but today I am struggling.  I went to the grave yesterday and put some flowers on his grave.  I was nervous being there.  So many people there and I was anxious that other woman would show up there.  I am so very odd today.  I think I feel sorry for myself... Mon, 26 May 2008 15:18:57 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 05/23/2008 11:20 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1072903 Yesterday I went to the cemetary to order my husband's headstone.  I actually found online a headstone that looked exactly our front yard.  For over 17 years we lived on the lake and our front view was our lawn, the lake, the dock, and the sun.  It was such a beautiful view, and I... Fri, 23 May 2008 11:20:09 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 05/16/2008 07:47 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1057631 Well, it has been a couple of weeks since I have heard from crazy woman.  It is a relief not to have her around.  i feel like I can actually concentrate on getting healthy and mourn for Tom.  I went to his grave the other day, it is the first time I have been there since two weeks fro... Fri, 16 May 2008 19:47:42 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 05/01/2008 08:15 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1022238 My daughter and son have plenty of friends that know all about Shelly and all she has done to us throughout the years.  Well, today, Casey's friend was going to the gravesite and saw Shelly there.  I am not sure what happened there, but later she saw Shelly at the store.  Shelly s... Thu, 01 May 2008 20:15:57 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/29/2008 03:59 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1016485 I cannot actually believe I have heard nothing from that shelly for a couple of days.  That is good, maybe she had to write me that letter to get it all off her chest and will leave me alone now.  For some reason, I doubt that.  She seems to have a pattern. She typically does things i... Tue, 29 Apr 2008 15:59:03 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/25/2008 07:31 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1007423 I guess this journaling is not something I would choose to do, but I feel like I am being forced.  I talked with a sherrifs deputy today about my situation and he recommended that I continue to journal as well as get a restraining order out on this woman.  It scares me to do this, thinking... Fri, 25 Apr 2008 19:31:16 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/24/2008 03:11 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1004321 So far I have had an uneventful day.  I have reread that letter that woman sent to me, and have so many questions.  I don't believe anything she wrote in this letter.  I believe I am a good person, and I do have a strong faith in God, but her words make me question things.  T... Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:11:38 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/23/2008 04:33 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/1001775 I have to start journaling about what is happening to me just in case I need to take legal action.  I am writing in here and I have given my sister in law my log in info and have left notes at my home in case the authorities need info.   My ex husband committed suicide in Feb 08.... Wed, 23 Apr 2008 16:33:01 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/15/2008 03:21 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/981236 Does anyone have any experience with probate court.  Here is the story.  My ex husband passed away this past feb.  My stepson was assuming he was the beneficiary so he went and hired a lawyer and told me to stay out of everything it was non of my business.  Well, I was named the ... Tue, 15 Apr 2008 15:21:49 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/07/2008 08:13 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/960236 I was wondering if this is normal or not.  My husband passed away this past Feb.  He took his own life and it is a very long story, but I am finding that I don't want to go anywhere.  I will go to work, and back home.  I have a dog, and I will take her out, but I do not even ... Mon, 07 Apr 2008 20:13:11 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 04/03/2008 11:54 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/951010 Here I am writing again finally.  I am not very good at this journaling.  I don't know how to feel anything but anger, frustration, and pain towards this other woman.  I found out tonight she is contacting my inlaws and offering her sympathies for the death of they're brother,... Thu, 03 Apr 2008 23:54:46 +0100 lghatfield's entry on 03/31/2008 10:55 http://dailystrength.org/people/211495/journal/940874 I don't know what to do with my free time.  I had this weekend off and I just find myself on the couch playing computer games.  I did do a little cleaning.  But I am not into cooking yet, and I do not want to leave the house.  It was a fairly nice weekend, and I just sat ther... Mon, 31 Mar 2008 10:55:19 +0100