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		<description>Why do people on DS get mad at other member that ask for help or attention? I have seen people get bashed on DS for supposedly being attenti...</description>
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			<title>Comment by NeverGonnaGiveUp</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[agreed people probally think i am bcause i reach out a lot. 
  
 and guess what i dont care haha because i know im not. 
  
  
 and i know your not hunni ignore them their just stuck up their own asses]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 09:47:00 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by deepbluewild</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[i have often wondered that myself...why it is that when someone obviously needs attention, people's first reaction is to deny them their need.  as if giving them attention will 'reinforce' their neediness...it's most likely just the opposite, if people paid attention, they wouldn't need it so much. ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:09:20 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by jazzergirl</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I agree testy. Most people want some attention & to be listened to. Calling someone here an "attention seeker" is just mean.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:09:45 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by inrealpain</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[i rarely ask on the boards for help because of this. i have offered and given help to other on the boards and in private but  found when i needed help i was called a attention seeker so now i ask privately to trusted friends for help]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:16:38 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by jendragon</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[You said it all!!! Thanks some one needed to:)]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:28:02 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by VixyPixiePants</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Sometimes the point of the forum does get over-looked. 
  
 I encourage people to ask for help.  And I admire those that do.   
  
 I think people have an issue when certain codes are broken frequently by the same person. 
  
 I've known of people who repeatedly claim they're suicidal, and then they just ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:36:19 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Netminder</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Good point, Vix. 
  
 Also, there will always be insecure, attention-starved folks who post 27 threads-a-day, or are compelled to continue responding to their own thread because no one else is responding, or are compelled to keep bumping up their own threads because no one is responding, or are compel...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:44:56 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Cal8889</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Well said, Testycatlady! 
  
 People come here for support. There are many kind, compassionate, supportive people who help others, despite their own pain and problems. 
  
 Those who attack others only hurt the community. If someone doesn't like to see 
 another member's posts, they can just ignore them ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 10:54:43 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Vixi.. I understand what you mean. But wouldn't it be kinder to just ignore people who repeatedly do that, then to bash? Also.. the people who do that sort of thing are often very ill in reality. Sometimes they may not even remember doing it. Especially if drugs or alcohol are involved. But what bot...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 11:01:18 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by VixyPixiePants</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Oh I completely agree about the ignoring thing. I never comment negatively on such peoples post, and as I said, they're in need of help too.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 11:39:22 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Batdog</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I've said this before too Testy and have seen other people say the same. I wish we could all just learn that if we can't say something nice then we shouldn't say anything at all. But then thats pretty much true of the world in general. There will always be people who are dealing with their own issue...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 11:43:26 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Batdog... I totally agree... I try to be tolerant and loving to all on DS. I understand that not everyone tho is to the point that they can be that way. Even I have to admit that some days I have to push myself to be that way... Some days I barely have the strength to deal with my own problems, neve...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 12:26:13 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Alphonsus</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Good post, Testy.  I agree 100%.  People who need attention NEED attention.  I've needed it myself in the past because I've felt so alone.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 12:26:58 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Well anyone who needs a hug, just has to ask me, and I will gladly give them one. Here is a huge hug for you Alphonsus for being so open about needing attention occasionally...  
 HUGS!!!!!!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 13:07:27 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by survivor69</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[testy 
  
 if people bash "you posters" and "you posters" get upset, you are putting things in their hands. they don't matter here. they are just here to give you advice. take the good and throw out the bad. try putting things in God's hands and share how you feel. this is not directed at you personal...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 13:15:49 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by BooBooKitty</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I agree, Testy.  If you can't respond helpfully, don't respond at all. 
  
 There are some folks who do come on and are consistently hurting every few days and say they want to SI or worse.  I was responding to someone like that, it began to get too hard and frustrating for me, so I don't respond any ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 13:17:10 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by GothicWenchGirl</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Well said netminder.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 13:18:12 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[BooBooKitty... I hear you... In both those instances when I know I can't truly help someone, all I might do is just offer them a hug, and let them know that I truly feel sad they are down.. thats all I can truthfully do.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 13:57:30 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Daisylou</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[No, I think they are just <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Talking" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Talking')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Talking">talking</a> about those people who come on here day after day saying the same things (maybe with a couple of different words for variety), and complaining about the same stuff. 
  
 People (me included) get frustrated when we hear this every day, and try to listen and be helpful ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 15:02:11 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Lisa461</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I agree Testy, we all need help now and then, and if there is someone who is asking alot of the time and not will to take advice, i just do say anything at all. Hugs Ice]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 16:32:08 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by deepbluewild</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[i'm pretty new here, and i <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">hope</a> i am not one of the people who've done this. if so, my sincerest apologies.  it's these kinds of reasons that people don't reach out for help. it makes me sad becuz i realize sometimes people have to take care of their own sanity...idk, i don't really have any answers...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 17:12:45 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Daisylou... I understand what you are saying... but... how does negativity help those that are needy regarding attention. If you are tired of <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Listening" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Listening')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Listening">listening</a> or responding to a person who is on every day, or that has made multiple posts, wouldn't it be better to just ignore them? Or at the least just offe...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 17:19:55 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by mamaluv</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Totally agree with you Testy. 
 Oh yeah, all you're kitties told me to say. "Happy Meowther's Day," to you and all the Luving pet owner's on DS. They said thank-you for you're unconditional Luv each and every day and they Luv you.. 
 xo]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 17:53:08 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by poohbear38</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[i hate the word "attention Seeking"]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 18:08:01 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[poohbear38... In all honesty.... so do I.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 18:17:34 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by ThePepperMan</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Finding a solution is such a strange thing.  When WE see the solution that ANOTHER misses, we get frustrated because, well, it is so OBVIOUS! 
  
 When WE have a problem and can not see the solution, it is frustrating when OTHERS  get impatient with us. 
  
 I think that about sums up the "attention see...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 19:15:42 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Thanks Pepper for your input. I agree that we need to be in the rite frame of mind before we can actually be of help to others on DS. I think that, that is what it all boils down to. If we are negative, chances are we will post a negative reply, or end up being brought down to a level we ourselves c...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 20:09:24 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Tweak</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I'm feeling a bit manic today so my rant here may seem a little over the top, so you'll just have to excuse me if it does! Hahaha. 
  
 I'm of the opinion that it's not fair for me to turn around after offering advice and say "You aren't <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Listening" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Listening')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Listening">listening</a> so why should I waste my time on you" because who am I...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 20:39:54 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by vicarious</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I'm new and the only way that I know to ask advice is to post a topic until I find some people I know that I can talk to privately. So if I seem to be posting alot of topics does this mean that I am being viewed as an attention seeker? Lord I <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">hope</a> not, I need positivity. The last thing I need is to ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 20:58:25 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Tweak... I agree with most of what you said...  I think that people have to remember that everyone will, and has, sought out attention at some point in their lives. It is ingrained in our human nature to need to know that other people care about us. Is it wrong to seek attention? That really is the ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 21:13:28 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Testycatlady</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Depression/forum/3308653-attention-seeking/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[vicarious... that is exactly my point. You should be free to post a question or topic without worry of being ridiculed. You should feel free to ask for help without worrying about how people may react. As one person I know once said... This is a support group... Not a fighting ring. We are here to f...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 21:17:27 +0100</pubDate>
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