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		<title>Physical &amp; Emotional Abuse Advice: What would you do? - DailyStrength</title>
		<description>My husband is emotionally/verbally abusive. He tells me he says mean things because he is admittedly selfish and needs a lot of attention, a...</description>
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			<title>Comment by AuldQuine</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Not getting enough attention is no excuse. 
 With my husband it was stress, and I spent my entire married life (25 years) changing our situation in order to reduce his stress, but you know what? there is always some form of stress in every life 
  
 and I'm guessing ther will always be things that take...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:02:01 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by queenvalerie</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[No amount of time and attention is ever going to be enough.  He will not be satisfied until you just sit there and think only of him, do things, only for him, feel things only for him.  If I was you I would not quit my job.  I would sit my husband down and tell him that there are many things that de...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 14:21:34 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by aikijedi</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Your motivation has to be based on your own desire to meet your husbands needs.  NOT based on hoping that meeting his needs will change his behavior.  Otherwise, your change in how you treat him just becomes a part of a dynamic of manipulation and control.  If you appreciate that your husband has ne...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 16:03:21 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by aikijedi</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I'm curious... was the idea of you quitting your job your idea or his?]]></description>
			<pubDate>Fri, 09 May 2008 16:06:47 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by rosebud11</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Quitting your job will give him another avenue to suck up your attention.  Sometimes jobs aren't about the money, but about maintaining your separateness and self esteem. 
 I did quit my job to raise the children, but replaced it with volunteering, which gave me a great sense of balance. 
 However, ev...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 07:15:17 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by fan4jr</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I personally would ask for more hours.  No matter what you do it won't be good enough.  The problem is inside of him and he needs to deal with it.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 21:25:07 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by chafemei</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I was looking to see where I should put my post...should I start a "new topic?". And it does not look as though there is a better place. 
  
 I feel funny not adding a comment to jacksmom555' s question, but...I really need help and the help seems to fit no better place than here. If I have made a mis...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 10 May 2008 22:31:34 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by bamabm87</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think he just needs to grow up. You shouldn't have to stop what you're doing to fullfill him, you sound content with it and I think it would be another level of abuse/control over you that you shouldn't give him. 
  
 Get him a dog if he wants a companion who will always be there.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 11 May 2008 03:41:39 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by jacksmom555</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Physical_Emotional_Abuse/advice/3297419-would-you-do/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Thanks to everyone for your feedback! I've decided to not quit my job. I would like to do that only because I would have more time to spend with my son, but I see what you are all saying here. I have made some changes in housework. I am going to lessen that load to see how it goes. There was a lot o...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 12 May 2008 00:28:49 +0100</pubDate>
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