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		<title>Breakups &amp; Divorce Advice: Would U send your ex a birthday card? - DailyStrength</title>
		<description>My birthday has come and gone by now and no contact so I guess she has let go of me which is probably a good thing for me and her. Our last ...</description>
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			<title>Comment by joybean72</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Nope, I wouldn't.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:17:18 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Jeanie40</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I think it depends on what you are looking for by sending a card. It's okay to let her know you  remembered her birthday - but if it is going to cause you to begin obssessing over her and cause you distress; don't send the card.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:17:53 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by mistimp</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Nope.  I definitely won't be sending him a card for our "first anniversary" on Monday either!  LOL]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:26:43 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Wick</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Both birthdays came and went, no cards were exchanged, same for all other events and holidays.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:28:09 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by KLynn55</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Not a good idea. Just move forward.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:29:24 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Danni515</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[No, especially since she forgot yours. Since your birthday is first, you can always only send her one of she sends you one. It's my stbx's birthday tomorrow, and I will give him a card and a present, but if I don't get one for my birthday in August I wont give him any more. It's not playing tit for ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:31:57 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by danyellet</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[No, I would say don't do it.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 07 May 2008 17:45:53 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Wicksbrat</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I am faced with the same thing. He calls me just about weekly for reasurance that we are remanding friends. His birthday is next week and he did call me on mine but I think instead of sending him a card I will just call him.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 10:46:03 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by TheDivineMsM</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[she didn't send you one so don't send her one. 
  
 my birthday is on may 14th and my stbx is coming over and he is ordering chinese food for my birthday dinner and giving me a card from the kids only. (although, if he said he wants to be friends there is no reason why he cant buy me a card from himse...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 10:57:54 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by rainygirl</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Whether she sent you a card or not should have nothing to do with your decision - You have to honestly look at what your motive is behind sending her a card.  If it is sent with good intentions and truly wanting to be friends, then yes you should.  If your motive has anything to do with manipulation...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 11:04:35 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by cougar71</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[IMO, I wouldn't because this only causes the hurt to drag out a bit longer.  I've been divorced for a little over a year now and I had to put a stop to this.   
  
 It only keeps the wound open and is more difficult to heal.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 11:31:17 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by SupY</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Thank you for your advices. Rainygirl made a good point. I do want to wish her a happy birthday and wish her well. But then I wonder am I being the enabler/rescuer again? Am I trying to manipulate her? I don't know. I don't want to manipulate her I think. I feel blessed that we had 2 years together ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 14:55:20 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Cynthia35</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[maybe next year? it may just confuse her and send some mixed messages. . . i wouldn't want a card from him and we sort of have to stay friends to successfully co-parent.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 08 May 2008 15:07:26 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by manxman</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[No no no no no no no no. Is that clear enough. The fact she did not send you one is a clear message.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 11 May 2008 05:17:44 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by table41</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[No.  I wouldn't even give it a second thought.  You need to begin to take care of yourself. That starts by moving on.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sun, 11 May 2008 05:39:25 +0100</pubDate>
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