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		<description>Did any of your spouses treat you like you caused all of this and later when they cleared out of the fog or whatever, freaked out and wanted...</description>
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			<title>Comment by Wyzer</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My first husband did. He told me he had cheated on me because I wasn't the same person he had married.  Of course I wasn't.  I wasn't 28 any more and I didn't weight 100 lbs.  When he left me he said it was a "separation" that we both needed.  When I started <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Socializing" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Socializing')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Dating">dating</a> he couldn't handle it and broke do...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 08:51:01 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by maxtomsmom</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Well my h never blamed me for the A, but did put a lot of blame on me for our bad marriage. The truth is that I was always second to everything else and he never tried to make our marriage work. I'm not saying I don't have blame for my part- I certainly do.  
  
 When I learned about his A, I initiall...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:31:03 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by heartbrokentexan</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[my husband didn't completely blame me for the A. but like others have said,he did blame me for our marriage being in a rough spot.he told me if i hadn't been so "in his face" all the time and if i didn't always hate his jobs it wouldn't have happened.just remember,we are not at fault for any of this...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:37:21 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Hazi</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Yep first time around my H said I wasnt the girl he married (I was 9 years older and had a full time job rather than being a student) he also said stupid things like he wasnt "In Love" with me anymore and our life was boring..well he was far too busy on his computer most of the time to inject any ex...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:38:15 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by fixation</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I was the cheater and I want to tell you that it can never be 'your' fault, ever. It doesn't matter if you were downright mean to your spouse every day - it still wasn't your fault he chose to take his pants down and <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Sleep" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Sleep')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Sleep">sleep</a> with another woman. It could never be your fault. That should be a non-issue ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:54:03 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by special3</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[YES, my H said - He believed he didn't deserve me.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 09:56:15 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by tearful</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[No...My husband swears it wasn't me or our marriage he was happy with us, it was him he was unhappy with. his affairs (3) all happened when he was in the Army and we had been 1000's of miles away. he got caught up in that ~~"Oh I'm so special any barrack slut will screw me and I can get off and even...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:20:21 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Tysey</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husand also never accused me of causing his affair but hima nd I agree that both of us were to blame for things going bad in our relationship. He would always say that "He wants the women he married back" and after all this he said that I was not attenetive enough. I explained to him after I foun...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:27:42 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Ariandme</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My H is angry right now, probably mostly because I found out and that she told me (so hopefully he is mad at her too) I also e-mailed the guy at his work he said he was living with to find out if that was true or all part of the "cover up" and apparently he got "talked to" at work. I didn't do it to...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 10:48:44 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Nave</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Ari, 
 I would not put a lot of energy into waiting it out.  give a deadline---to yourself---say 3 to 6 months of waiting, then let him go! 
  
 If he is so confused that he has actually left you,( I have not read your profile) then he may not ever get his head on right!   
  
 Mine tried to blame me, wh...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 12:39:56 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by momsren</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I was also blamed for the affair.  To this day, he has not tried to come back, per se, but still tries to maintain some control over me.  He seems to still need the emotional connection to me to some extent as well.  My feeling is that when he left the marriage, he forfeited all rights to any kind o...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 13:40:13 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by tweedsie</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Are you sure we don't have the same husband?  LOL]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 13:56:59 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Ariandme</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/3115751-question/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[When we moved in Dec. 1st 2007 was his second and only chance. He wanted out because he was "not happy." The affair just came about 2 weeks ago and he was already moved out since February. mine sounds like yours too Mom, he needs me in his life for some reason or he wouldn't be calling my daughter 5...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 14:28:52 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Niki1977</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[I have never been blamed for the affair. The affair was 4 months long, off and on, I was not aware of it during that time, he did blame me for things in that time period which I believe was a way of him justifing what he was doing. Once he confessed he took 100% responsibility for his actions and ha...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 15:56:48 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by jstanley</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[My husband blames me for his affair.  He told me things from, us growing apart because of MY busy lifestyle, we had nothing in common anymore, and I pushed him into having an affair (Blah,blah,blah).  It is so painful for me to think about this, but I have gained so much strength since finding this ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 24 Apr 2008 22:13:48 +0100</pubDate>
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