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		<description>As I read through some of the ways in which you all caught the cheaters I noticed that many of them cheated more than once.

Is it naive t...</description>
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			<title>Comment by cowboygr2002</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[God, I <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">hope</a> not.  I'm gonna wait on other replies too.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:29:45 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Nave</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[<a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">Hope</a>, 
 I am going to write on the topic of "whuy" they do it.  I got some info and a website to refer to.  Based on what it says?   You decide.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:30:55 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by scousejo</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Not always.One affair is a mistake.Were all human.two is a serial adulterer.I cheated once a long time ago and never did it again.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:40:25 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by fyreman</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[It may not always be inevitable that the cheater will cheat again...some people are genuinly sorry and will make every effort to not repeat it,,,others(from what I have seen) dont care about the pain they cause as long as they get what they want,,it is a personallity disorder and unless they get hel...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:50:41 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by tearful</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husband did it three times...Why am even trying to work on my marriage, the one I didn't diss? I really deep down don't know. I say it's because I love him, then I ask myself how can you love someone that is so thoughtless? He swears he'll never cheat again, when I found out about his affairs 6 m...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 08:54:23 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by jbtcarbon</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I cheated on my ex wife with 2 differnt people. one was a "one night stand" we were all drunk. I drove her home...big mistake. 
 The other lasted for about 2 months...nother mistake. 
 My ex-wife forgave me the first time. She worked on forgivin me the second time....Till she walked out...So...I didnt...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 09:07:27 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by HopeLivesOn</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[JB- Why did it have to get to 2? I suppose I just don't understand why some men need to make mistakes more than once in order to learn from them, assuming they ever learn from them at all. 
  
 I believe in second chances but when my husband took that chance for granted he crossed an invisible line in...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 09:30:07 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Deceived</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think it's inevitable that most if not all will cheat again.  Once they've done it the first time, it becomes easier.  Once they've done it twice or even came close to twice, it's a certainty.  And to make things worse they get better at hiding it too.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 11:14:01 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by fortunate1</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Your title is correct, once a cheater always a cheater.  Just like most anything else people are branded with a stereotype and will never live it down. 
   But yes I feel that a person can change even drastically change their way of thinking and feeling.  It usually takes a major confrontation or eve...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 11:17:04 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by ast64</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I really think it's unfair to stereotype people like that.  I believe it really depends on the person!  For me, it's only been one time, and as God as my witness, I don't intend for it to EVER happen again!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 17:31:17 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Flyby83</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I don't think it's naive to forgive, nor is it inevitable that it will happen again.  One time will be enough for the truly remorseful to learn their lesson. However, if there are 'problem(s)' that aren't addressed - either real or perceived - it will likely happen again and with more frequency.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 18:22:31 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by fantasizr</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I'd say a good percentage of people who have extra marital affairs will do so again. I'd also venture to guess that for every "affair" discovered there have been others which never surfaced. But that's just most people. There are plenty out there who have just made a mistake and are the wiser for it...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 18:49:54 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Daisy_Lover</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Reply to # 10 
 Once is too many (for an affair)!!!! 
 For the heartbreak you have caused!]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 19:42:33 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by ntrfrk</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I guess that is the big question. For me, the lying about it is the unforgivable part. Lied to me, our daughter, and the marriage counselor. Claims he didn't even realize he was lying. Although he swore that he wanted to work on our marriage & wouldn't see her anymore, he is still seeing her. Did ad...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 21:56:26 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by vicki323</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husband cheated and cheated again and again.  This last time things changed on him.  I was no longer the same woman.  Our relationship is like a broken rope.  You can tie it back together but there will always be a knot in it.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 17 Jan 2008 22:26:56 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by blondelexus</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[my ex husb was a " serial cheater" he made my life a living hell for most of the marriage. i was always such a forgiving person but as i look back at the start of the marriage i really had no where to take my children. i married him at 17 and had a child right away. i was not skilled in any job. my ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Sat, 19 Jan 2008 13:19:36 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by daisy5</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I cheated after 18 1/2 years of marrige and I will NEVER do that again.  It wasn't worth it and even though we are closer now that we ever were and I am absolutlely forgiven, I never want to completely forget the pain I caused. I did it once and that was one too many.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jun 2008 20:19:32 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by 2much4me2heal</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husband never seemed truly sorry. Once I found out about the OW he wasn't really sorry...in fact he had a smile on his face (trying to hide it, but c'mon!) He cheated again, and again, and again. I really believe there are those who truly are sorry and want to try. I think that's the difference? ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jun 2008 22:46:47 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Fuzzybunny</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[This is a very difficult question.  As was told to me and confirmed by my counselor - 80 % will cheat again, 10 % might, and 10 % will not.  The odds are not good.  My H is very sorry and feels very bad about what he did.  I think he would do it again though because although he feels bad, etc. he is...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 10:02:08 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by tearful</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husband cheated 3 times. BUT I found out about all 3 on June 28,2007. His last affair was in 2003. If they had been found out while they were going on or shortly after there would me no trying!! It makes it easier for me to know that the 3 meant nothing to him they had basically been , Wham, bam ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 10:10:05 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by steveng5691</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour therefore I have to conclude that if he cheats once, he'll do it again.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 10:31:54 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Johnna</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Naive? Maybe.My H has cheated numerous time. We have been together for many many years and have 2 grown boys now. I have found that it seems to come in waives he can be completely faithful for years at a time then something will throw him off. Could be anything from a draining law case he is working...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 10:32:03 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Hazi</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My husband cheated three times. From what I gather two were emotional affairs (he actually left me for both of them) and one seems to have been just sexual (he married me while it was going on) 
  
 I think the majority of cheaters will continue to cheat when everything isnt going exactly their way bu...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 10:41:25 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by scousejo</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I know it isnt true of all cheaters.My sis cheated and they reconciled and she never cheated again but then her h cheated and left her for ow so maybe that was the catalist for him or just karma.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 11:20:05 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by midwestgirl34</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[you title is perfect! my soon be be exhusband has been on the "married but need a date" websites more than once. This time he found his true love, so he says. He also did it when he went into the marine corp right after we got married, twice, and has had two since then. I cheated once about 9 years ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 13:21:30 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by kristi425</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I think it depends on the person. 
  
 Some people don't confess to infidelity.  They don't really ever give any good or real answers as to why they did it and they continue to hide things and lie afterwards.  These people obviously are not out of the selfish mindset that one needs to be in to cheat a...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 14:26:42 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by neverwillforget</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Yes, I also believe once a cheater always a cheater.  What do you say to the people H and good friend who had an affair a while back and you don't find out about it until recently and she stayed in your life as your friend and he let her stay in your life.  I think that is a long term affair.  They ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 14:27:32 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by ibex</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Once a cheater, always a cheater.   
 Past behavior does indicate future behavior, so you have to examine everything around the situation to decide if it will likely happen again.  How long were you together before it happened?  How did the truth come out?  What were the life circumstances and will t...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 15:41:34 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by eturner1</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I cheated on my partner and am living the regret of that decision every day.  I am constantly reminded how close to the end I am in this relationship because of my selfish desires.  She too forgave me the first time and the second time, but I have reached a point where she says she no longer wants t...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 17:57:53 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Savannah05</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[I told my husband once can be forgiven but never forgotten and I know it is so hard to forgive them the once so I really <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Faith')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Hope">hope</a> that some people see the pain they cause their SO and realize how horrid it was and change it has been almost 2 years and I am just now getting over it and he still deals wit...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jun 2008 20:12:19 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by sld1</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Infidelity/forum/1936108-once-cheater-always/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[My STBX were married for 29 years when he started his affair.  I have since found out about several more.  I never want to see him again.  He can't understand why I don't want him to come over for dinner with the kids and I.  I don't even answer the phone when he calls.]]></description>
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