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		<description>This weekend the headstone for my stillborn daughter was set and put in place.  I went to decorate and one of the persons who went with me m...</description>
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			<title>Comment by angeljoy25</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Wow, this is such a personal choice.  I feel that it was okay to have your time.  I do think it might be good to let him know that it's there.  Then it's up to him whether he wants to visit it or not.  It sounds like it may not be his way to deal with it, but at least if you let him know then you're...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 11:51:55 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by gayleh</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[A stillborn child is much different than a miscarriage. It still hurts as a miscarriage, but you had a baby....I am so sorry for your loss...it's not easy. I have never had that happen...but death is hard anyway! 
 Tell him about the headstone. Tell him where it is, and if he choses to go to it then ...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 11:53:59 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by TamiJ1</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[This was YOUR CHILD.  You will grieve in YOUR WAY.  NEVER, EVER let another person tell you how to feel. 
  
 If the father made you feel pressured in any way, do not speak to him about this.  Just drop him a postcard or something.  Don't allow him to hurt you. 
  
 This was your Very Personal time. 
  
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			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:02:04 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by uncy4781</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[It was your time to spend with your baby.  Now that you have done your part maybe you can just let him know that it's in place if he would like to see it.  Put it in his court to make the decision because you have already done your part.]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:10:12 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by Giddy</title>
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			<description><![CDATA[Taffy,,, 
 I lost a daughter after 16 weeks into the pregnancy.. she was also perfect! My husband caused it, by beating me! 
 My daughter has a name and was buried, cause she was considered more by the hospital than a "mere miscarriage". I also got to hold her and love her! She was so beautiful. She w...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:19:32 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by patti22</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Absolutely it is different.  I too have had a miscarriage.  But I did not go through labor and physical recovery.  I never felt that baby move inside of me.  And although I had terrible morning sickness, it was not nearly the same physical experience.  I never knew the baby's sex, and never has a NA...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:35:58 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by journey7</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Taffy, 
 You carried that baby girl from the time of conception until the time of her birth.  You felt her move, you felt her hiccup, you felt her kick and you felt her <a href="http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Sleep" onclick="treatmentHotLink('http://dailystrength.org/treatments/Sleep')" class="treatmentlink" title="Learn more about Sleep">sleep</a>..you loved her in an instant.  She was every part of you.  A man can NEVER experience any of that, however, they do experience...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:52:22 +0100</pubDate>
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			<title>Comment by taffylilly</title>
			<link>http://dailystrength.org/c/Breakups_Divorce/forum/1703098-tell-not/lastpage</link>
			<description><![CDATA[Thank you for your responses.  I will tell a mutual friend who can let him know and he can decide for himself what to do with that information.   
  
 Thank you all for validating the intensity of my grief over this loss in comparison to miscarriage.  It means a lot.   
  
 It took me a long time to get...]]></description>
			<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2007 12:57:50 +0100</pubDate>
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