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It's now 5 months for me and I still can't believe it.

I agree with you. It's not fair on us but it is what it is. There is not a moment that I wish I could turn back time and stay with him forever.

I miss him so much

(((hugs))) and thinking of you

My husband has been gone almost 9 mths.and I remember thinking the same as you.If I stayed mad at him I wouldnt have to be sad.So I would try to think of all the things I wouldnt miss.Well let me tell you that didnt work and I crashed.He had his bad points but we had alot of fun together.Now I have tried to learn to live without him.I miss him like hell but I cherish the memories I had with him.I wish he was still here but I know thats not possible.We need to learn to go on,be happy again.I know Bruce he would want me to be happy.And I'm grateful for the time we had together.Some people go through their whole life not having what we had,even if it was only for a short time.

It will be two months on the 10th that my husband passed, and sometimes I feel that I am doing worse today then I was then. I guess maybe the shock has worn off. No, its not fair. We talked about growing old together, we were both losing our sight at the same rate. Things to close or two far away. Things starting to ache when you get out of bed on a cold morning. Being lazy together. He just knew everything there was to know about me. We finished each others sentances and thoughts. So many times he would say something, and it would be so off the wall, but i was thinking the same thing but hadn't said it yet. I get the same way you do. Honestly being angry at him or at something seems to help me deal with things, but I know its just covering up what I don't want to feel and I still can't believe. We were only together for a little over 12 years, but I felt like we were together forever, everthing before him was, well, it was just nothing. I know that I don't allow myself to relax because I feel guilty, I feel I should be doing something, but what? I have no clue. Thank goodness I have had so many kind people on this site to get me though my days and nights.

I am 37 also. I lost my husband almost a year ago. It hurts like hell. You will get through it. It gets easier as days go by. You don't forget, you just adjust. We were married for 17 years. I was lost. But my children need me. Just pray. I will pray for you also

It has been two months since my husband passed away. In April it would have been our four year anniversary, we have been together for near six years, I wash so much it was more. I am 23 years old an he just turned 27 eight days before his death. My heart is broken, and my prayers go out to everyone who has lost someone special.
Blessings....