Widows & Widowers Support Group

That can be tough.. I had to go back to work a week after everything happened and as hard as that was it was probably the best thing for me. I think it really helped me progress through this life I now have to learn to live with.. I would have to guess being home makes it so much harder to get back out there.. I dont really know what to say but maybe set a date and encourage yourself to do it and when the day comes, do it. You may surprise yourself at how good it will make you feel to help others or whatever you choose to do. I know you can do it, you need to know that also. :)

I went through the same thing. After 52 years my husband died of a rare type of cancer. Just try to put one foot in front of the other. That is all you can do. I kept the radio on just for the noise. Cry when you need to. It was the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I had never lived alone, but I knew that I had to go on to make a life for myself.
This is a good place to verbalize your feelings. I still open his closet door, hug his shirts and tell him how much I miss him, but I am moving on. You will have bad days, but things will get better, although It may not seem that way now.

I wish I had some good advice but it has been over 2 years for me and I still only go to work and rarely to the grocery store. I order things off internet then go return them. I see a Dr. but it doesn't seem to help. I wake up every morning and it always seems it just happened. Keep trying and maybe you will be able to get out there I know others do. It just isn't me.

You said that you cannot go out on your own. Do you not drive? Is that part of the problem? Do you have any friends that could take you to any volunteer service that you might like to do? If not, does your city/town have a transportation service or even a taxi-cab service? Some cities have Sr. Citizen buses that transport seniors from place to place. Just trying to think of ways that you could get around.

I know that getting out after our spouse dies is difficult, as we're so used to being with them and relying on them. I had NEVER been totally alone in my life after my husband died 7 years ago, and besides the shock of losing him, it was culture shock!! So I do know what you're going thru. Please let me know if I can help. God bless. Lee

Hummmm this is the place that I live every day. I have my 2 dogs and they give me company. I have 2 sons, they love me but have there own lifes. I went to a movie by my self, went to dinner by myself, worked in the yard alone, and some days I pray to god for it to be over. Then I go to bed and try endlessly to go to sleep which comes around 3 AM wake up and start all over. I have come to believe that with me it is mind over matter. Don't get me wrong I HATE MY LIFE NOW but what else are we going to do. Do you have a pet? If not maybe you should get one mine do not let me be, and somedays that is a good thing. Ask God for help that is what I am doing, it can't hurt hugs and love your way,
Susan

Maybe you can contact a shelter for the homeless and ask if they need any help. Sometimes just taking a walk will lead you to someone to help. Contact a volenteer agency near you. Just some thoughts.