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Yesterday I had such a lot of things to sort out and I was really busy for a large part of the day. When I eventually went to bed I realised that my husband had not been on my mind all day and then that started a major meltdown, I felt so guilty that I had gone through most of the day not consciously thinking about him. This made me feel so bad, it has only been a little over six weeks he was my soul mate my best friend my every breath and yet I went all that time without a thought of him. I miss him so much I just don't know how I am going to go through the rest of my life without him. I need to know if this is a "normal" part of this nightmare we are going through or is it just me?
Posted on 08/08/08, 07:08 am |
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I think this is very normal. It's the reprieve that God knows that we need at times. You didn't forget him, your mind, body and spirit just took a break that I'm sure was needed just for a little while. When you got unbusy again it all came back, didn't it? Yes, it did. I find this happens when I spend time with my grandchildren. Being around their innocence, love and laughter takes my mind off of all of the loneliness, emptiness and missing Dean that I still spend alot of time feeling and he's been gone for 7 months now. When I'm not doing anything else he's still pretty much all I think about. The memories are still there, we just get distracted for awhile and this is all part of the healing, I'm sure. They may be gone but they are never forgotten. Please don't worry that you may have done anything wrong, you didn't. He will always be there, just sometimes ours minds need a break and that's all that happened. Judi 
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Yes it is normal...because nothing is normal on this journey...don't be surprised when things like that happen..just count it as part of the grief process...no need for guilt. Our hearts are where we store the best things...not our everyday moment by moment thinking. You're ok friend, you're ok.
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I think sometimes our mind needs a break or we couldn't function. Everything is normal like Claudy said. Guilt especially. I feel guilty over strange things like watching a tv show he enjoyed or having food that was his favorite sometimes just for having a day that I enjoy something in. I would say don't feel guilty but you feel what you feel I don't think we can always control it. Hugs!!!
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