Game addiction is a form of psychological addiction related to a compulsive use of computer and video games, most notably MMORPGs - open ended, online video games known for their d...
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Hi ! I am a newbie and just joined this community. I am a gamer and smoker. I have been playing computer games since very young. Back then my parents restrict my gaming time but I've always found my way to access the games. As I grew older things started to get out of control. i have been studying overseas for 7 years, and over these 7 years, I can tell you I spent pretty much all my spare time playing computer games. I will stay up till very late.
After I entered uni, I've been living by myself and things are getting worse. At first I don't mind my friends visiting my apartment and they always hang around. But later on I started to fell annoyed and tried all excuse to keep them off my apartment so I can play all day and night. 5 years ago i met my wife. She loves me very much and really cares about me. ( sometimes a bit too sticky :( ) At first she just want to be around me and don't really mind what we do. So I'll play my games and she watch her TV or do wat ever. After we 've moved in togather, she started to complain about me playing online games and ignoring her. Usually I'll tell her ," let me finish this level then I'll come sit with you" But that usually take at least more than 30 mins. I will sit with her for a bit, then when the right moment came, I will take my chance and go back to my game. Her complain about my over gaming time became more and more agressive and often. At first i told her that me playing games is like she likes to shop. This is my hobby and theres no reason that you try to stop me. I even argue with her that Im will to go shopping with you but you won't play games with me. The problem is getting worser and worser, eventually i promised her to stop playing so much. I told her i can stop when ever I wanted to and proved to her for a few weeks. But eventually I started playing again and every time I started playing from a break, I played for even longer time. I don't want her to be piss off at me, so over the years I have developed a habbit of only playing games when she's not around. I will not let go of any single chance to play, even for 5 mins when shes taking a shower. She's finished uni and is working now, but I decided to do a post graduate study and stay in uni for 1 more year. My daily routine now is playing games after 8:30 when she's off to work. Pretend to be studying at 6:00 pm when she gets back. I don't do any housechore unless I was told to. I will tell her often that I need to stay up late to finish up an essay or project . But as soon as I put her to bed, I will start my gaming straight on until morning. I will skip classes and miss assignment due dates to play games. This is really affecting my acedamic results. We had a few big fights and i left home for a few days. On the first night I just wanna clear my mind and think about our problems, then the second nights I went to the internet cafe to play my game. Since then every time we had a big fight I will run away and play games for a few days and night in those internet cafe. I am not an out going person but yet I tried really hard to pretend infront of my friends to be talkative and kind. I've always thought that in their eyes, I'm a kind and good person. Just recently, I realise for the past 2 years, the only time I go out with them is when we go to internet cafe togather. Other than that no one will look for me and neither will I look for them. i am posting an article here because I kinda fell like I'm addicted to games, which I always thought I wasn't. But I don't want to seek professional help coz I felt too ashame of myself to seek help on gaming matters. I wanted to stop this addiction but not totally stop playing games coz I knew its gonna be painful and impossible. What shud I do ? Posted on 07/16/07, 05:07 am |
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sounds like you have a game addiction yes. There's nothing to be ashamed about - best you find a counsellor and a group of friends outside gameing.
Admitting it especially to someone in person- is the first step to helping over come this! You cAN do this! and life can be better. I have been on the other end.. your wifes end I suppose - with past partners and basically losing my brother into games... From this side - I can tell you that even though you are trying to keep this private from your wife and it's not necessarily seemingly harmful to your relatinoship because you do it while she's asleep etc. I'm sure she can tell there's a shift in you and it will continue to effect the relationship unless you do something and take action. Plan something special with your wife more regularly that is outdoors perhaps where you don't have anything to do with the internet / games as a fallback option. You can do this, it's not impossible. Your wife is worth it and so are you... the real world can be as fun and as exciting- as you make it. 
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