I had the deadly combination of haveing hyper focus mixed into my depresshion of leading a failing life.
Not saying there are not acceptions to what I found but for many it is fever that comes from the infection. It is a hard thing to address because the root of the problem lies hidden. However this addiction is real and very serious even with it being just a symptom it should not be taken lightly. We all know the lure of the game. With x amount of time in we become great. When we become great we recieve postive feedback our carrot befor the horse. People praise us we feel alive and a winner. In the real world were failing and disapointing others we choose to be a winner and stay in the game. I can not look at one thing I accomplished in my gameing that I can feel proud of. I was a god there and loved by many. In my home my child was begging me to make her a frigging sandwich because she was so hungry. I let her miss meals because I did not want to let my raid group down. I still to this day get flashes where I crave that winner juice. However my childrens plea for food stays in front of me now and I choose them.
I am sorry if this addiction is one someone you love and you feel helpless. Often my truth and really the only sultion is taken hard and people can't take it. But every thing you do to provide the person in the addiction is enabling that person to keep on doing what they are doing. My advice remove your self from the addict. Make them face their problems the sooner the better. Only tough love can help. It is the love that will not only move out but three days later when they are starting to have withdraw because their enabler has left they will sya anything to get you back so they can continue. It is a normal addicts response you need to stand fast and let them
detox. No games for months. Nothing for addicts ever came out of three months worth of time or less. It takes more work to re train the unconsious mind to no longer crave lust for that stimuli. tough love is the best tool and really your only tool you have to help. I have seen other stay in the relationship until there were worn down and grew contempt for the addict. Then they
leave for good. The person loses his/her enabler and faces their problems after the long haul they are healed and try to reconnect the relationship. However the person now has contempt for them and once that happens a relationship is done never seen contempt get fixxed yet. So protect yourself/ protect your love that you have. Go to a sfae place away where your love will not turn to contempt and you have a real shot at saving the relationship best of luck to you.
Posted on 07/19/08, 09:07 am
This forum has come along way with members. I came here it was only me. I would post things really to sort out my thoughts. I only had myself to help me out. Soon very soon members joined but they were not the addicts rather the people who sufferd watching the addicts. In many ways they helped me. I gave them me and was truthyful with what I did and felt. I soon discover my healing through that alone. It is nice to see others are pulling themselves out. I am proud of you. 
