Game addiction is a form of psychological addiction related to a compulsive use of computer and video games, most notably MMORPGs - open ended, online video games known for their d...
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I joined this website because I have run out of places to turn.
My fiance is addicted to WoW. He started playing the day after Christmas, 2005. He went through all of the stages, playing for an average of 10 hours a day on workdays and usually 12 - 15 hours on Saturdays and Sundays. He finally cut down about six months ago, after telling me that he was going to quit when his card expired. It never expired, he kept buying cards. It was destructive to our relationship from the very beginning, but he kept playing and I kept trying to deal with it. I ignored it, I supported it, I even offered to play at one point, but none of it worked. I finally realized that I could not live the rest of my life with that game. He told me that if he couldn't be with me AND play the game, then he couldn't be with me. I left, he deleted the game, so I came back. 1 Month later, (in March), he redownloaded the game. So I left again. At this point I found out that I was pregnant, and decided to take better care of myself. He begged me to come back, said I'd never have to hear about WoW again, so I came back, thinking he had deleted it. But he hadn't. He was just secretly playing it. When he told me a week later that he hadn't deleted it, I freaked, so he deleted it. This was in the end of April, and just after that I lost the baby. So that was that. He had withdrawals, he's been crabby, and I've been trying to be supportive, but he won't talk to me about it. Just a few minutes ago, (I'm on a computer that we share at home) I found it. I found WoW. He had redownloaded it on the 15th. I know that he hasn't been playing it... so do I confront him? Basically at this point, I recently found out that he was playing at his friend's house on him computer, only once or twice, though. And his card is supposedly expired, but I have no way of checking that. Am I just fighting a losing battle? Posted on 06/27/08, 01:06 am |
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Hey there... Umm... yeah this is a tricky situation. I was addicted to WCIII and trust me, this thing of reinstalling and uninstalling and reinstalling is a process that i'm too familiar with!
Anyway, here is an insight. Games are a way to escape. You knew that already. On a lot of gaming addiction sites, you'll here stuff like "Oh well I quit because I realize what I wonderful life I missed.. blah blah blah." Well, what if your real life sucks? It's like not your fiance pretends that WOW is the real world. he's not that stupid. What happens is that he'd rather immerse himself in it than immerse himself in the real world. In the real world where he deals with his problems.. his lost hopes, maybe his unexciting life... whatever. So my advice to you? I don't know the full scope of your situation, but usually, an addiction this strong indicates an unhappiness with his real life. Maybe help him find a way to deal with it; help him be happy with his real life! Help him want it live and dwell in it and think about it, it and it's problem, more than he wants to stay in WOW! 
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It is a lazy way to enjoy constant gratifying experience without feeling the pressure and stress of real life responsibilites and demands. Gaming offers people a chance to be anything they want to be. They have goals in the game that they can achieve, that life for many reasons would never offer them. Such as popularity, many friends, wealth and so on. Once absobed in the game, you actually begin to condition part of your inner personality to be the person you are when you're gaming. The problem is that the games that are so addicting for people never end!
This is what makes it so addicting. If you have a job, there is typically an end to your work day or work week. You typically get few rewards for your efforts and it isn't a super fun place to be. In the game world on the other hand, you can have a blast all the time, be richly rewarded for your efforts and there is no ultimate end (AT LEAST FOR MASSIVE MULTI ONLINE ROLE PLAYING GAMES).
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if every time you turn your back hes sneaking around playing wow, or installing it again, then he is not going to give it up, you might as well move on, sounds like you need more out of a relationship then he is going to give you.
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