Video Game Addiction Support Group

I have the same problem. It's 4 A.M. and I go through this daily. My husband plays every chance he has. He is playing now, I woke up and he wasn't in bed, he was playing Eve. We really do not have a sex life anymore either and I have started doing things alone (going out to eat, starting to take trips alone). It makes him angry to talk about it and says he is not here to entertain me. That's fine with me, I can entertain myself, but I know we will eventually drift apart, as this happened about eight years ago and I moved out then. After a couple of weeks he missed me and changed and moved back in with me. He lost his home, his daughter moved out and his son went in the Army.

Hi guys, yes i have the same probelm with my husband i am 20 and he's 22, we have only been married for 8 months but its already starting to take a toll on our relationship. We both play eve but his is a bad addiction. I play most of the time just so that i can spend time with him and get some attention. Dont get my wrong i enjoy playing eve but only in moderation. He is up really early before work..on eve, when he comes in for lunch...he's on eve and when he gets home of a night time until i get up him for being us so late...he's on eve and he's the one telling me he needs more sleep!. Even when he isnt on eve he's always talking about it and planning what else we can do on it. Today we had a fight becuase i put a password on our pos and it booted 2 people that were in it out..i didnt want them stealing our expensive skillbooks we had worked so hard for...well it turns out they were a friends atls and he told my husband that he dosnt trust us anymore etc etc...so i got thrown in the dog kennel even though i explained to him why i did it. I was also told that i should treat him and his "friends"(who he dosnt even know his real name) better! I treat my hubby better than some anything..i cook for him and clean for him etc and even try to spend time on eve with him but it seems his mistriss (eve) wins again. He tells me that he feels like he acheives things in eve where as he dosnt in real life. I just dont know what to do ....somehow i dont think there is a solution...i just think he's being selfish or is it me being the selfish one?? sigh ...hope to hear from you's
Liss

I am a member of a mercenary corporation on Eve. Perhaps we can work out a contract to eliminate all your husband's assets, thus leading him to be disillusioned with the game completely.

"I am a member of a mercenary corporation on Eve. Perhaps we can work out a contract to eliminate all your husband's assets, thus leading him to be disillusioned with the game completely."

2 funny

my sis has the same prob hr hub is addicted to halo ho not eve . you should talk to hm and set up times when he can and cant be on the pc tell him that u really need help around te house and so on

You can't really set up times that a full grown man "can and cannot" be on the computer. Someone with an addiction like this is something that the person themselves wants to give up or you will just find them running to it behind your back. Sadly the only choices are to give them the choice of you or the game. Or living with it until they get their head out of their bum.

unless you have a large amount of free time, MMORPG's are the worst kinda games you can play. these games are designed to take up your time, and take countless weeks, months, even years to achieve things. It's best to stick with games you can pause and or join and leave whenever like shooting games. The production of non MMO's has basically sank though since wow made it big, but there are so many games out there that will not take up all your time and still give a gamer the release and fun he/she wants. but getting someone addicted to a main-stream game, to quit it.... well it just wont happen. the individual needs to make that life choice. no 1 else can. what I would recommend is a strong ultimatum. if you're truly as upset about this as your msg shows, you need to either get him to give it up on the spot, or he looses you.

I know DouglassAdams was being facetious .. but it's a pretty good suggestion. I'm not sure if I'm an addictive personality but it is certainly in my genes and family history. I stopped playing Ultima online (an earlier mmorpg) because I got sick of continually losing my assets to pirates.

This is a bit long, but I promise it has a point. I kinda had the same problem, I played Eve for about a year and a half I think, and it started taking time away from my wife and daughter. It wasn't until recently that I learned about how much of a waste of precious time to spend with your family, games, in particular MMORPGs are. Currently Im in Afghanistan and getting shot at kind of changes your priorities in life which is what made me decide to quit playing, that and the whole other people online killing me all the time got old, anyways the best advice that I can give would be to go out and do other things that you both enjoy that has nothing to do with anything that may draw him away to the game, like going out to the movies, or something far away from a computer. Explain to him why you are doing this, try not to make the reasons about you, even if they are. Explain to him that you're worried about his well-being, and things dealing with him. If you make it about you, it may be misconstrued for nagging, which is only going to make it worse. Get interested in other things that he is interested in and talk to him about them. A constructive confrontation is the key here, if he starts getting upset tell him that you're just worried and want to help and try changing the subject because the more time you're actively engaged in conversation, the less time he is playing EVE. Also realize that like any other addiction, it's going to take time, so don't expect him to quit cold turkey. Remind him how much he means to you and your kids and how proud of him you are for the sacrifices that he may have made in the past for your family. The ultimate underlying problem with games like EVE is that, eventually it turns into an alternate reality, no matter how fake and non-existent that reality may be. It gives the player recognition for accomplishments made within the game, and thusly an overwhelming sense of pride and self-importance. They also allow the player to achieve goals that in the real world are completely unrealistic, but in-game are very achievable. And lastly, they allow them to ignore the stress that they may be having in their real life, by essentially leaving the real world behind and starting fresh without a care in the world. So all in all the person is really addicted to the idea of leading an alternate, and more rewarding life while ignoring the stress they have in real life. So the key is to try to somewhat imitate that feeling in everyday life by recognizing or rewarding them for their achievements in order for him to stop or at least slow down on playing EVE, or any other MMORPG for that matter. The main warning that I will share is this, DO NOT engage in an argumentative conversation about the game or it will just make it worse by them thinking that their life is getting worse, so ultimately they will compensate by playing more. Also talk to him about what is bothering him in life, what his stressors are, sometimes just talking about your stress with another person helps relieve all of that which is built up. Keep in mind, I am not a psychiatrist or anything like that, so don't take what I say for being THE answer to your problem, I'm just trying to help.

I have the same issue in my house expcet its my wife. she plays bf2142. for hours and hours at times. doesnt want to do anything around the house but play a game when she gets home. the car turns off and the game goes on. sometimes till 2 to 3 am in the mornings on the weekends. recently she told me she going on a bussiness trip but after I opened her computer passwords. found out she went to meet a guy she meet online thru this game. This is the second time of having an affair. the latest one went on for 8 months i just gave to much trust and not checking up all the tme. heck she is in her 40's i thought she would know better. she said i had a pron problem online I STOOPED cold turkey. it was hard. so I tell her i loooked at porn to see women in lingeire and i buy her toons of it but she doesnt wear it. so now I just dont know what to do. Last week I caught her on a teamspeak with the putz from michigan in a private channel. she still has him on her myspace page and the emails and other thing I read were very sexual oriented. I havee been in this deal for 8 years and for the last 3 it has been me dating a computer. it gets old. which now its making me think of why am i still here. I play darts and havent been able to play as much as I did because of being scared of whats going on while I am not here