Urinary Incontinence Support Group

At the age of 7 my parents split up and this was the first time i remember wetting myself..

I used to wake up absoloutely soaking wet through and i was scalded by my mum for wetting the bed..

I used to wet my pants every day at school and comments were made, i infact one day remember a child saying omg karen has wet her self their is a puddle under her table... I was about 8 years old and got up and ran out of the class room into the toilets and hid myself behind some paper towels and made a den...

Then i was sent to the drs and specialist and i was put of tablets as they said im a deep sleeper, i was admitted to hospital for testing etc and they found that i wee very fast and very strong..and i had like mesh nets on my bed and the first sound of trickling an alarm would go off, but i got used to this very quickly and turned the button off...

I was also on a star book a blue star for everyday i didnt wee the bed and a gold one at end of week if i was clear and i was to get a toy, needless to say i never did get a toy..

This carried on and on and on right through my teens and used to drive my mum mad and i still got told off for it...

In my late 20s i had problems with my kidney and eventually i lost the kidney due to infection and not working, but i still would wee for england...

no matter what i did i could never have a dry day or night with regulary replacing mattresses every couple of months.. When i was under a specialist i went in for tests and it was decided that i had to use intermittent catherters to stop this and for the first time i started to have dry nights and days however my bladder went into an awful spasm and it really hurt but they gave me tablets to sort that out..

i have never really got to grips with the catheters and hate with a passion using them, but i also have local anaesthetic that i use with them... recently i went the other way and went into total retention. i had stopped using the catherters and the dr knows i really struggle with them but he siad i have 3 choices
either carry on using intermittent catheters
have a permanent bag
or have bladder removed

so i am back struggling to use them... i have tried all sorts of catheters but i suppose i will never ever get used to using them..

Think the most embarrassing was when i met my current husband and explaining to him i wet myself and im a wetter...

But hes really fantastic with it all, if i do have an accident even after using catheters, hes makes a nice joke about it and said good job im in shallow end here.. i got me new swimming trunks on.. and we change the bed and go back to sleep, hes never made me feel inferior or dirty about it all.. its just routine now..

I know i will have to use these damn things for rest of my life but recently having tests for a stroke and this seems to be the least on my mind..

Been a wetter isnt nice, nor is some of the comments i have endured through my life, even when i was working employers just looked at your as though omg i got a right one here...

Its a shame as people cannot help wetting, i dont sit their and think ok lets pee myself today..

I have had embarrsing moments esp before my kidney was removed and my bladder would just go, one was in a shopping mall and all i could hear was squish squish squish luckily i had a fantastic friend with me who said dont worry, she nipped into local shop bought some underwear and we nipped in toilets and i got sorted...

having friends and family who understand the situation is fantastic.. and who know how not to embarrass you
Posted on 01/19/08, 06:01 pm