Twins, Triplets & More Support Group

I was extrememly overwhelmed with my twins arrival. They were my first childrena and I had a very difficult time nursing them. I had been up all night before their birth and was a zombie. I'm expecting twins again and although abrupt, I am planning on telling people to come see us when the babies are about two weeks old. I don't want any visitors in the hospital except maybe my mom and mil, seriously that's it. I am easily overwhelmed though, you really have to take care of yourself and take a stand and do what will be right for you. I think in the end people will admire you for doing what's best for you and the babies.

Congratulations on the soon to arrive duo. Twan has excellent advise. Just family for the 1st 2 weeks and ask family to take shifts so you are not overwhelmed. The most important thing is for you to be able to relax and bond with the babies.Especially if you are breast feeding.After 2 weeks, introduce the little darlings to others slowly. If they are early their immune system will be weak making them suceptable(sp?) to germs.
My identical girls are 26 yrs old now and mothers themselves. You are about to begin the most wonderful journey of your life. Enjoy.
Extra congrats to Twan on your 2nd set. WOW

my family was really good when my twins were born, they gave me space, tooooo much space!!! i already had a 4 and 6 year old, and i felt my " we have to become our famlily" thing really kept away the help i needed.... i think waiting 2 weeks for visitors is fine, and dont feel bad for making them wash hands first!!! uugghhh those people who just have to let the babies suck on their fingers, garooooose!!!! good luck with your twins, mine are 2 years old now, oooooh my its a whole new kind of tired!!!! mummy mummy mummy!!!! having twins is amazing to me.... you will be in awe of them.....

We had our twins 5 months ago, and were absolutely swamped at the hospital. It got to the point where I had to tell people to leave.
I told people before we had them that I would call when I was ready for visitors. And if people showed up, the door wasn't answered (come on! It's rude to just show up!)
Be honest with people, and remember, whoever is there can help around the house! Cook, clean, whatever needs to be done! I know people just want to old babies, but if they are coming over they need to help you out!

I think it great if they want to come over and help out with the housework or cook but other than that ask everyone to wait a few weeks before coming over.Always have a bottle of germs x around in case.

When I delivered my twins we did have a few visitors in our home, however, we limited their visit to about 10 minutes and they weren't allowed to hold the babies.

This may sound harsh, but I didn't want my newborn twins to get sick from anyone and I was worn out. I welcomed the help from my mom and MIL. Also, many of my visitors brought us food which was great!!!!

I was totally overwhelmed when my twins came home. I did not answer the door or the phone for a few weeks. I did'nt even open the blinds or leave the house. I am suprised that I have any friends or family left. Normally I am a people pleaser but I could not worry about other peoples feelings at that point I was in survival mode. My 8 yr old, 5yr old and my husband and I had a hard time adjusting to the new dynamic in the house and lack of sleep. My MIL stayed around the clock to help and cook. I was not a fan of the germies either. At that time I could not afford for anyone in my house to get sick. Do what you feel is best for you and your babies.