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We have a 4 year old (she'll be 5 in July) daughter who is a fairly well behaved child, and has always been mommy's girl.
She was excited about the twins, and has always been good with them..until lately. They (boy and girl) are 6 months, and are fairly good babies (not colicky or anything). I am nursing both of them. She seems to be sick of them. Her attitude has changed to the point where she won't listen to us. She is being rude and disrespectful to us and has actually started into the 'I don't like you' routine. She is also getting rougher with them when she is playing with them....which she likes to do a lot (thankfully). This has all started sort of overnight about 2 weeks ago. We both are making an extra effort to spend time with her, but there is only so much time in the day! I think she is just sick of them and me spending time with them....she used to have me all to herself. Has anyone else been through this? What did you do to make it better for the older child? Help...I don't know what else to do! Posted on 05/14/08, 11:05 pm |
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I have not been through this but it is normal for her to act this way.It will probably come and go.Good Luck.Sounds to me you and your husband are doing your part. 
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my daughter was 4 whe my boy/girl twins were born, she was ok for a while, she had a brother 2 years older so they had each other, now.... she is almost 7..... and she can really put her feelings into words, i feel guilty on a daily basis..... its hard when so much of your time is taken, up wiht nursing and the daily care...... i am still nursing 1 of the twins.... it gets better, i make sure to spend a couple time a day talking with her..... i think both my kids know how lucky they are to have a big family, but sometimes it reallystinks because my 2.5 year old twins, can sure put a damper on things so my advice, give her some extra attention, but not to much.... she has a brother and a sister now, and she needs to adapt to that.... i am 1 of 5 children my mother never felt this way, what are we doing to ourselves
good luck
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I have a 10year old daughter and almost 6yo twins; and the 10year old gets sick of them all the time. I dont think it is something that they grow out of, just sibling rivalry.
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A friend of mine had this same issue and this is what she did and it worked like a charm:
She and her older (singleton) daughter had an official "Mommy/Daughter Meeting" they talked about the situation as it was (daughter "sick" of twins) Then they came up with an activity that only involved the two of them, they decided to go to a local burger joint and then to a specific park every Thrusday. The mother promised that they would be the only two of the family that would ever go to this resturant and park - it was "their place" So my friend does this once a week - she is very religious about it - rescheduling meetings, etc. to make sure it happens. She found a babysitter who comitted to this one day to watch the twins. Her daughter loves it and now is so much better with the twins. Now, I think that once a week might be a little hard to keep up but maybe twice a month would work just as well. I would love for you to try this and let me know how it works for you - I found it very smart of my friend to do this. She plans to do this with the twins when they get older - letting each of them individually pick "their place" so they have their own special individual time with their mom. Keep me updated - this really interests me as I will have two babies three months apart very soon through adoption and I plan to use this idea with them as well.
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annemarie,
that is such a great idea!
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Hi ya
I myself am a twin. You could try including your daughter in helping with the twins. E.g. feeding always make sure u put awaay some special time for just you and her. alothough that may be hard. Try to find at least 15 mintues a day to spend some time with her, doing what she likes, or talking about her day. Does she go to preschool or anything? or is she home during the day with u and the bubs?
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My Daughter is the same way right now but I haven't even given birth yet. I'm just hoping the things will calm down before the babies come.
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Awwww, my heart goes out to you, and I know just how you feel.
I had two singles first, then a set of twin girls, and they were great at first, then acted up etc after a very short time. After including the children in little things like bathing the twins,burping them or even pushing the stroller with me, they seemed to fit in. All went well until the next set of twins were born,lol. The good thing is everything does work it's self out eventually. You are not alone through this. I also placed my children into daycare, for sanity time,lol.Hey till now it has worked, and I'm a proud mum of 6, with my oldest being 10, and the youngest being 3and a half yr old twin boys. Wishing you luck and peace. xx
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