Twins, Triplets & More Support Group

I have had an overwhelmed feeling with my first child. I cryed alot but thank god it only lasted 3 weeks if your has been going on for 6 months I would see your ob. It can't hurt atleast to talk and get things together. Do you have anyone there who can give you some time off? I hope things get better.

I'm sorry you're having a tough time. It's probably not much comfort but you're not alone. First, I would talk to your Dr. about it, make sure he/she is monitoring your progress. Secondly...a quick story...picture this, three girls sobbing hysterically for about a half hour. Granted two are only 4 months old, the other girl (myslef) is 34. I LOST it last night. I was double feeding them. It started off great, I was watching a show I enjoy, it went downhill quickly and ended with my crying, saying "great...you won't even let me watch a half hour show, thanks." After a good cry, I felt better, and regained my composure. However, I often get a fleeting "urge" to get away.

Hang in there...

Its time to call your Dr. I went through something simular, sort of. Can your spouse help out more? You probably aren't getting much rest. I hope things get better soon. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

PLEASE call your doctor. My postpardum started about 4 months after birth and lasted 3 months. In that 3 months my marriage failed and my x became very depressed. If I felt like I had the time to seek help I would have, but I was in such a mental state of disrepair that I couldnt even get to the point of thinking that I needed help...GET HELP...before it gets worse...you will be fine, but some of us suffer so severly that all we can do is get medication...your body is extremely hormonal and with twins it takes longer to recover. Nursing makes it harder to recover because of the hormones...good luck..try to be positive...having twins is the greatest gift and it is soooo cool to watch them grow and be best friends. Now mine are 3.5 and all I do is watch the two of them play together. If I only had one, my life would completely revolve around that one child...TWINS RULE!!

i had post partum after the birth of my twins..... i had wicked bas guilt for my two older kids, i came out of it..... i think you should seek some help, talk to someone, it does get easier,, although mine are 2.5 and its still hard in some ways..... i think any relationship changes after a baby, twins, well doubles that change. i went to a therapist 1x after the twins, she sug. unrealisic things for me, she said, i needed to get 8 hours of sleep, have someone come in so i could nap during the day, or get away for a weekend, i was like, ummm lady, i have 2 week old twins and a 4 and 6 year old, what planet are you from!!!! are these your first babies??? when i had my first, and even though we went through infertility to get him, the massive change he brougth to my life kicked my butt..... but now..... i wouldnt trade any tantrum for the world, try to accept that your life is all about them for now.... you will miss these early months when they are gone, and they go by soooo fast..... congrats on breastfeeding them both for this long! thasts awsome!!! i am still nursing 1, dont ask, he is a booby boy..... i am here all the time... if you need to talk, ok, goodl uck and give yourself a breat, mine again, a re 2.5, i still dont have it together, hahahah, but i know, someday i will so i am loving the days of being a forgetfull scatterbrain, baby brain, try to have some fun with it while you can......

I do not have my babies yet but as a nurse I think you should talk to your OB. It may be normal or you may need some help, either way it is better to ask. I think you are so tired too that even if you were not depressed you would not be in the best mood. Good luck.

Man can I relate! I am a mom of 4, my first two are 24 and 21, never intending on doing it again..at 41 with twins. We were told my husband could nto have children..6 years later we found out they were wrong. I love my new babies, but I do feel overwhelmed and there are many times (daily) I want to run away and not come back. I do advise you seek treatment, I did nad it has helped. I still get tired and overwhelmed, but it has helped me with some coping sills. I totally understand how you feel.

Sherry

its normal to feel overwhelmed with multiples. i know i am still over whelmed with my twins and they make me want to cry at least once a day and they are almost 6 and i AM on medication.... lol
i would seek help with medication though. zoloft helped bring back my sex drive after a lack of for almost 4years. plus things arent as bad as they were for me. never know, meds might help,one child is hard enough but twins are hard to deal with also. i dont care how good of a mom you are, twins can be a handfull. good luck....

Oh honey we have all had them days! I remember but just like someone else posted here...YOU WILL MISS THESE DAYS!! I promise you I promise you I promise you!! I was told the same thing and thought they were insane...but it's true! They grow so amazingly fast! Mine are 5 years old now and it has been a very very rough road and I still have those days where I think that I could just leave and never return home but then I think about how much those two little girls depend on me, love me, and given to me as a gift from God and girl I never asked for twins either but that is what God gave me and it would break my heart if my twins ever ever felt like one of them were a mistake! They keep me busy and some days I feel like I'm gonna loose it! But God gives us a break when we pray at our deepest despair and give it ALL to him. I always say that God is my nanny he helps me with them every day in every way as long as I concentrate on him. All children have their bad days just like us adults but if you are already tense, upset, etc they can sense that. If you have ANYONE that could help out one night a week so that you and hubby could have a "date" night that might change things for ya a little or maybe alot. Having children changes a marriage but children or no children I honestly think that marriages change anyways...it's just a matter of making sure that you change together is the key. IT did help with us for "date" nite it gave me and hubby something to look forward to doing together without the kids. Once the kids get older though you will also want to do things together as a family which is awesome! You might want to call your Doc too and see about getting on some depression pills. I did for the longest time but I have a huge family trickle of depression in my family so I really didn't even have a chance. However, God has healed me of that now and I am totally off of my depression meds and cannot be happier about life. Hang in there sweetie those babies need you and depend on you. You do need a break every once in awhile too though so even if it's going to Wal-Mart by yourself while the hubby stays at home with them. All these feelings are normal I think at least I felt the same way and based upon the responses I do believe others faced the same issues! Those babies love their momma and they will be so grown up before you know it and you will think back and ask yourself why you complained that you should have cherished those moments and wish that you could go back. Make sure you video tape and take lots and lots of pics! Trust me you will miss these days! Don't feel bad either because look around you are not alone!

Hang on hon, you are not alone. My twins are only 5 months and I felt exactly the same way about two months ago. I never got out and some days never showered or cared if I had brushed my teeth. My husband and mother were really worried and asked me to tell them what my day was really like. When I get it all out and had a really good cry I knew I need to take a little time for me. I started getting out at night. Even though that means walking the dog, but it helps. Cabin fever and same routine can wear anyone down. I also talked to my doctor about it. I reasured him I was not going to hurt anyone I just was not happy. Once you really start talking about it you start to feel so better. I also didn't ask for twins and things are not at all what I thought they would be but being a mother of twins gives you such strength. Just stay strong and one day you will long for this time again. Hope this helps.