Since I can't really "tell" my friends or family about hair pulling - nor do I really want to, some try to be helpful - but now what? One friend suggested we go see a hair replacement salon together to see what they can do to "help" the situation. Which is ridiculous, because I know what really needs to happen is I need to get better control over pulling- and then all will be well with the world. So when my friend started to push my on making an appointment with her to help - I felt pretty upset, but couldn't really tell her I was - I just tried to
avoid it altogether. I won't go for obvious reasons, but imagining what hat scenario would have been like made me upset. What would I tell them - all examining me - and having to admit to my friend that I pull - which when I sort of tried to mention years ago - she reacted pretty strongly - lie "what?! So I didn't really tell her. I couldn't. I felt embarrassed and like it is what I feared - telling people makes it worse and a way bigger deal and harder battle to fight. it's not just you coping, now its you also fighting their "
knowledge of what's true about you" and trying to maintain a good self image while others really have this "news" about your real situation. Does that make sense? I know I shouldn't really care what anyone thinks...
So what would you do? Others have politely suggested getting hair extensions, which I would if my hair was long enough on the top of my head to do that. It's not in any shape for that at the moment. So how would you have responded?!
Posted on 07/22/08, 06:07 am
We've added new hugs! Send some love to your friends now! 
at least for me, it makes it worse (the trich) when I DO tell someone. you know how for the most part, we do our damnest to keep this thing a secret, right? but once i tell people, i don't feel as ashamed, and i find myself doing it more. sure, they may slap my hand, or remind me, but when i'm determined enough, i will pull anyways. so i think, for me, telling people gives me the freedom to pull that much more. 
